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By Susie and Otto Collins
Geoff and Kim are blissfully happy...and they've been married for over 30 years!
Of course, they aren't blissful, smiley and lovey-dovey with one another every second of every day. They have their disagreements, misunderstandings and lulls in the relationship.
But, for the most part, they both genuinely feel fulfilled in their relationship. They enjoy spending time with one another and they truly appreciate each other.
How do they do it?
One secret behind the best relationships is this... Don't stop discovering yourself and your partner.
What this means is that you resist the urge to stick your partner in a box. You don't expect your mate to be the way that you remember him or her being when you first met and started dating.
When you release your partner from having to always be the same and stay the same, wonderful things can happen...for you, your mate and your relationship.
You can continue to discover and re-discover who your partner is as he or she changes and grows.
This might mean that your mate gives up an unwanted habit and adopts a new lifestyle that is healthier or more preferable. Your partner may become interested in a new hobby or realize some aspect of his or her personality that was previously unknown.
In healthy, close and connected relationships, none of this is a bad thing and none of this needs to feel threatening to the other person.
When a person discovers some new preference, interest, habit or way of living, his or her partner can join in the fun.
It doesn't necessarily mean that if your partner develops a love for parachute jumping you have to take the plunge too. You can appreciate the light in your mate's eyes and the spring in his or her step because of this discovery.
You can join in with the feeling and the excitement of it. You can even choose to join in with the actual activity if you like.
As you release your partner from having to always stay the same, release yourself too.
Go on a self-discovery adventure of your own. Invite your partner along for the ride.
If he or she isn't interested in this particular activity or path, remember that you two can share what you are discovering about yourselves with one another. That enthusiasm for living can easily seep into your relationship increasing passion and connection.
