subject: Say Goodbye To The Stillness In Your Marriage [print this page] Say Goodbye To The Stillness In Your Marriage
Marriages take place and break. People promise to live by each other's side and then fail to abide by it. Couples look for a family attorney or a child support attorney after they separate. You might not be thinking about a divorce as yet. But, you cannot deny that your marriage is in danger.Many couples face this problem. After a few happy years' time, they might notice that their relationship is not strong enough. What is it that makes your marriage stagnant? Where is the love that used to be there? What do you need to bring it all back?Both you and your spouse might have a number of problems and arguments that lead to this unanswered silence between the two of you. You first need to find out what these problems are. There may be money problems, household problems, in-laws problems, disloyalty, etc. Next, you must think how you can avoid them.You both know each other very well. Therefore, you must look for different ways that make your spouse happy. Similarly, you should avoid what your spouse does not like. It is not easy to give up your likes and obsessions, but for your partner, you can at least limit them to a certain degree. Ask yourself the question, "Who is more important, my partner or my obsession?"One big reason why most couples observe stillness in their union is the lack of romance. Many couples do not find time to spend with each other. Even though it might be a little hard, but go out for a date night at least once a week, or once in two weeks.Have friends or grandparents babysit your children and go alone. Put on a dress that your partner likes and focus on how you look. These frequent dinners will rekindle the love you two had for each other when you first met.Arguments might turn nasty however, keep one thing in mind; no matter what the subject of argument is, it is not bigger than the love between you and your spouse. Whatever you do, do not say anything that you will regret later. The words might fail to go out of your spouse's mind and might make the situation worse any time later.Never sleep on a fight! Even though you might not want to talk about it, this is what you must do. Always discuss the argument. Apologize and forgive where necessary. Moreover, when the fight is over, do not remind each other of what happened. This can start it all over again.It is a good idea to go for a vacation when you feel that the romance in your relationship is dying. You do not need to plan a month-long holiday. A three to four day stay at a beautiful location will do. Show the love and importance that you have for each other.Lastly, the golden tip: Keep expressing yourself. Your spouse will not come to know of your love unless you show it. Learn to be expressive if you want to be as happy as you were before, and win your spouse back!
