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It is quite disconcerting to me that we get so many messages that make it seem acceptable to criticize our mate. Pop culture, of course, is the biggest scapegoat for this, but what about those of us who play along and reinforce this?
We don't watch regular television in our home. We got very tired of the problematic gender roles and depictions of relationships that pervade the airwaves.
I know that these images sell, but I tire of the stereotypical shut-down male who hides things from his overbearing wife or mother. Men are portrayed as simple-minded, unfeeling, conniving creatures who need to be corrected by their rigid and frigid wives.
Let's focus instead on how we can support one another, conquering life's problems as a team, not adversaries. How we can challenge each other to be our best selves. How we can speak the truth to one another in love. It may not get good television ratings, but imagine a partnership like that, full of help, guidance, and cherishing.
When you feel some pent up energy, you can wrestle to get the tension out! This exchange of energy can be a great way to connect and release, provided everyone plays fair.
Your assignment: Notice around you all negative representations of partners and relationships. Neutralize it by becoming aware and saying to yourself, "That's Interesting!" In this way, you have a chance to opt out of participating in the game of disempowerment. It is a huge step toward peace. Let me know how it goes!
