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It is true that in all personal and intimate relationships it is highly unlikely that the partner is completely faultless. It is more likely that at different times in the connection both partners can make mistakes. Perhaps something is alleged that shouldn't be or something is finished that shouldn't be.
As long as these mistakes are of minor importance and do not happen all that often, most relationships will survive these facts of life. Read on and get ex back now! However, when the mistakes are really serious or happen all too regularly, the connection could be put in danger leading to an occasional break up. If only people learned to speak with each other, to be confident enough to share their concerns, look for ways to resolve the issues, a lot more relationships could be saved.
O.K. rant over. What if in case you have recently broken up and you already know it was primarily your fault? What are you going to do if you are looking to get ex back?
Let's face some facts.
However you contributed to the break up you need to take full responsibility for fixing it and for making amends. A simple apology, if meant and said with true feeling, may go some way to healing the rift that you have caused but it is going to take more than that if you wish to get ex back and rebuild your relationship.
This little anecdote may seem like an aside but it is highly relevant so please read on
A young supervisor was apologizing to a senior executive with the mistakes he had created using his team. The senior executive replied by saying that he accepted the apology. He then added that, all of us make mistakes he said adding the difference is what we do about it after the error has been made.
I hope you receive the point. You can't undo the mistakes you made. You can not turn the clock back. However, you might take responsibility to make every effort to get ex back and make things right again.
Perhaps these suggestions will help you to create the appropriate decisions and build the fitting environment for getting back together.
" Before you take care of the error, take care of the emotion and the way you feel. If you don't feel confident that the mistake is often remedied, if you allow yourself to believe that your ex will never forgive you, you will not be able to make any progress whatsoever. Try and approach the task of getting your ex back with an inner strength and a noticeably positive attitude.
" The title suggests that you just face the facts. One fact that you will want to face is that you'll be the cause of the mistakes you made. Fixing those mistakes rests with you. However, it is advisable to fully understand what went wrong, why and when before you stand any chance of remedying the mistakes you made.
" Give yourself the time and space to reflect on what happened. If you can, attempt to remember what was occurring that led to you making the error(s). If I present you with the benefit of the doubt and accept that the mistake was totally unlike you or your normal behavior and there were extenuating circumstances, simply talking this through together with your ex may perhaps be all it requires to have your ex back.
" If I take a much harder line and work on the fact that this part of your make-up, you have a much bigger challenge ahead of you. Should you acted through jealousy, pettiness, selfishness or just plain stupidity, you will want to convince your ex that you have made a heavy effort to alter these behaviors. Saying it won't be enough, you will need to prove it and that could take time.
" Last but not least, communicate, communicate, communicate. Listen, be attentive and care more for your ex than you do about your personal feelings or desires. Mean what you say especially when apologizing and asking for forgiveness.
" You intend to get ex back so prove it first to yourself and to your ex. Show you are fully committed to making things work and, please, don't make exactly the same mistakes again or you will have an entire new set of facts you'll have to face.
