subject: Is Your Relationship Ready For Sex? Five Signs It's Still Too Soon [print this page] Is Your Relationship Ready For Sex? Five Signs It's Still Too Soon
One of the biggest mistakes some people who are looking for a relationship is wanting to have one because of all the wrong reasons such having a sex partner. Having sex too soon can break a potential relationship. There are various factors you may want to look into before diving into that blissful phase in your relationship.
You're not entirely comfortable with each other
Intimacy is not entirely based on sex. You can be intimate with someone without doing it. If you find yourself being in an intimate situation with someone such as kissing and feeling like you want more, then probably you're ready but having a make-out session and feeling like one of you wants to stop, then stop before you go any further. You don't want to end realizing after, that you should have listened to that tiny voice in your head.
You're not ready yourself
If you don't feel like having sex yet, don't do it. Having sex too soon can affect you emotionally especially if you're doing it for all the wrong reasons. Getting to know a person can tell a great deal on how they want to be treated in bed and establishing a certain understanding before hitting the sack can better your performance.
If it's your or her first time, the only thing to do is wait until both of you are ready. Don't have sex, thinking maybe, it will break the tension between the two of you and just to get it done and over with. Remember, if it's the first time, whether for you or her or for the both of you, it's going to be unforgettable whether it was good or bad. If she turns out to be the person you'd least expect to have sex with in the first place, you're gonna be wishing you should've waited until you know that person better.
You're Dreading the Morning After
Will you be able to look the person in the eye after you've had sex? Will you be prepared for the responsibilities that come along with it? Most women feel more attached to a man after they've had sex even if they've just been seeing that person for not too long. Are you ready for whatever consequences there may be? Are you planning to call her after even if the sex wasn't great? Would you know how to handle her if she pulls a Carrie on you if you don't call her back? If you answered more No's than yes, wait a little more.
You're not sure if she wants it either
Never force someone into having sex with you because first of all it can get you a room in the slammer. You'll know when you're ready to do it or having sex is too soon. Don't think that only women have that little voice inside their head that warns them if they should have sex or not. Men have it too and like other women who chose to ignore it, end up regretting it. If you attempt to go further and you feel that she's already pulling away, respect that and wait for her to be ready.
You're not ready to go deeper into the relationship
Having sex too soon is a messy situation that's hard to get out of. Having sex seals a good amount of trust with that certain someone and you may not know it but a woman needs that trust and feeling of being safe with you. You neglect to give her that and things will start to get messy. Being comfortable with someone also means you're ready to open up more things about yourself to her and accept her. If you're not ready to be with her, don't dive in to your cravings, you might not get out alive.
