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By Otto Collins
Jeremy knows that things have been stressful and strained lately. He and his wife recently moved their family to a new city, they both started new jobs, their kids are in new schools and everyone is feeling tense and overwhelmed.
His marriage has also showed effects of all of these transitions and challenges.
It seems to Jeremy that there have been far too many misunderstandings and mis-communications between himself and his wife recently. They try to be patient with one another and they have been attempting to make time to connect as a couple, but it's been tough. There never seems to be enough time or energy with all of the unpacking, meetings, transporting of kids, and more that's been going on.
Jeremy would just like to see his wife smile more. He wants his marriage to remain close and be more enjoyable, even in the midst of such a busy time in their lives.
You might not be going through a big move, job change or other transitions like Jeremy and his family are. Nonetheless, life can get hectic and stressful. This can take its toll on your love relationship or marriage.
One way to keep your relationship happy, passionate and close is to do those "little" extra things that make your woman smile. These don't cost much and really don't take all that much time either.
Here are a few suggestions...
1. Tell her that she's gorgeous...and really mean it.
Very few (if any) of us look like the women and men on television and in the movies and magazines. When you look at your woman, find something that you find stunning and beautiful and then tell her what that amazing attribute is.
2. Ask for her opinion...and really listen.
Most of us appreciate being asked for advice and being heard. Even if you are accustomed to making "your own" decisions, occasionally ask your partner what she'd do in a particular situation and then really listen to her ideas. You'll probably learn something new and useful!
3. Buy her flowers...when it's not a special occasion.
Giving flowers can become dull, expected and ho-hum-- except when they are given when it's not Valentine's Day, her birthday or an anniversary. Choose a day when there's absolutely nothing special going on, other than you showing your love for her. Even if it's a special occasion, be creative and pick out a bouquet of unusual and seasonal flowers.
4. Remember to follow through on a promise you made to her.
We all get busy and, from time to time, pretty much all of us neglect to do every single thing that we've promised our mate. Be absolutely certain that you are following through on the "big" promises that you and your partner make to one another. Think about the "little" promises too. If, for example, you realize that you've forgotten to fix a leaky sink or read a book that your woman asked you to fix or read, do it now.
5. Share with her one dream that you have that involves the two of you.
Everyone has dreams. Sometimes they seem too silly, sappy or even impossible to share with the one you love the most. Do it anyway! She'll most likely feel honored and excited to hear about the vision for a shared future that you have in mind.
6. Ask her how you could make her day a great one...and then do the thing she says.
Whether it's her birthday or just any average day, find out how you could be part of making your woman's day a great one. This doesn't mean that you are responsible for how your partner feels. It does mean that you can periodically check in with her to learn how you can positively contribute to her joy and happiness.
7. Kiss her on the back of the neck...even when you don't want sex.
There's nothing like a tender kiss on the back of the neck (or another non-sexual body part) to show that you love your woman. Let her know that you want to keep your connection going, even in in those moments when you two aren't sexually intimate.
8. Offer her a shoulder, foot or back rub at the end of long day or week.
Just about everyone holds onto stress in their bodies and that stress can lead to irritation, tension and physical pain. Particularly when you know that your woman has been dealing with challenges in her day or has been intensely focused on a project, offer her a shoulder, foot or back rub. Create a quiet and relaxing space in your home and then treat her to a relaxing massage.
9. Tell her how special she is...from the heart.
No matter how long you've been together and no matter how much you think that your woman knows that she is special to you, nothing beats hearing it. Take a few moments to tune in to your feelings for your woman and remember all of those special and endearing things you see in her. Now, tell her that she's special and share with her the reasons why.
10. Look her in the eyes and say "I love you."
You might already tell your partner that you love her, but how often do you stop what you are doing, look her deeply in the eyes and speak the words "I love you?" This will most definitely make your woman smile and it can help bring you two closer together too.
