subject: Steps To Resolving Conflict In Relationships [print this page] Steps To Resolving Conflict In Relationships
Every individual is different and unique in his or her own way. No one can expect to find a partner who will agree and like the same things in all circumstances. Can you really expect to find a partner who will love your favorite foods, who will enjoy the same hobbies and who will totally agree with you in almost everything? People are different and because they are different, it is inevitable when two people end up in conflict. But there are ways to resolve conflict and by knowing these tips you will be able to settle issues a lot faster and easier. For starters, here are some very common and yet effective ways to resolve conflict.
You have an issue and for some reason your partner just can not see your point and would just keep insisting on his side. Well, have both of you tried to look at the issue in the other persons' perspective? The first step is to understand the problem by putting yourself in your partner's shoes. This way you will be able to understand better why he or she keeps insisting on his or her side and can see where they are coming from.
You have to realize that you are different from your partner and that you need to accept the fact that you can not expect them to always behave in the way you want them to behave. If you come to a point in the conflict where you just can not solve anything it might be best to just be tolerable of the persons' attitude and personality. Unless it is something totally immoral and wrong, we should learn to accept and just allow the person to make his or her own choices.
If you want to resolve conflict, you need to develop the ability to deal with the issue without being angry. Anger just frustrates your mind and makes you unable to understand the problem. Not only that, you might start hitting below the belt by name calling or finger pointing because of your anger. Try to avoid talking and arguing at the same time to avoid sparing anger and aggression in both yourself and your partner.
Lastly, you and your partner should be willing to work together to come up with a strategy that will help you resolve conflict a whole lot better. Here is an example, if a problem or another issue arises, sit down with your partner and tell him or her that you would like to talk about this first before making any major decisions. Start by listening to what he or she has to say before voicing your opinions.
