subject: Maintain Control in Your Relationships – Never Relinquish What's Yours [print this page] Maintain Control in Your Relationships Never Relinquish What's Yours
Do you always lose control of your relationship and you want to learn how to manage them better? Have you noticed how you're particularly attracted to men who tend to be forceful and tend to tell you what to do? Could it be that you're relinquishing control because of your lack of confidence in your choices and opinions? Let's take a look at why you're doing this and why it's important to stop.
Some women are flattered when they meet a man who is forceful and persistent. He comes on all strong and decisive, telling her when she should see him again and she feels that this is a show of attraction or affection.
As flattered as you might be, hold your ground and say no, perhaps offering another day that is more convenient to you. Be polite and engaging all the while, but show him that you're not going to be pushed around. A guy who is level headed will understand and will accept your decision. The guy who gets angry and throws insults at you because you deigned turn him down he's not worth your while.
Then there's the guy who simply realizes you're reluctant to put your opinions forth and feels obligated to speak up every time. You might think you're doing him a favor by being so demure and soft spoken, but in the long run this can grow to be a problem.
A certain lack of respect can come to take over as he sees your complete inability to think for yourself. Sure he'll be happy to step in every once in while and decide what to do one evening, but to have to constantly take charge can be exhausting.
Give him a break and let him know what's really on your mind. This is important in order to have a well balanced relationship, but it's ultimately important to your happiness as well. Biting your tongue and holding in your opinions can leave you feeling frustrated.
So find your voice and let yourself be heard. It's time you took control of your relationship
