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How To Win Back Your Ex : Decide On The Best Approach And Do It
There are various ways to try and get your ex back. Each option has its own advantages and disadvantages. As long as you are not out there actively taking the wrong steps that are destroying any chance of reconciliation. Before we go into what you should do, what not to do is just as important.
Stop trying to contact your ex to beg them to take you back. Hundreds of text messages, voice mail messages and emails are not the way to get into their good books. In fact it is true to say, it probably puts them off you. Anyone who comes across needy and desperate is going to find it hard to convince their ex to take them back.
On a more positive note here is what you can try.
Just let things happen. You do not contact your ex for any reason, but wait until they have cooled off and have a chance to realize just how important your relationship is to them. This approach can take patience, but if you broke up over a silly argument and deep down you both love each other this will work. You must remember that you need to get on with other things and wait for them to contact you.
If you are more action orientated then the second option might suit your better. This is when you sit down and hand write a letter to your ex. You should include a very sincere apology in the letter. A quickly scribbled note will not be effective. Your letter must be written from the heart. Whereas phone calls and emails might not be answered or opened, a letter with a 1st class stamp will almost certainly be read once if not more times. This is an opening that you cannot afford to muck up. Your ex is going to be pleasantly surprised by the effort you made.
Another way to get your ex back is to use curiosity. If they are wondering what you are up to, or they hear positive comments from friends that you are out doing things they are going to want to know more. Curiosity is a very powerful emotion.
Once you get your ex's attention and that chance to meet up, you have to plan how you are going to progress further.
