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By Otto Collins
Jake can't stand it when his girlfriend gets moody. It's like living with a roller coaster-- one minute she's happily cuddling up with him and the next minute she's angry and pulls away.
It can drive a man crazy!
When Jake's girlfriend gets all moody, he feels like he always does the absolutely wrong thing and makes everything worse. He wishes he knew how to talk with her in ways that will actually help the situation and their relationship.
If your woman ever gets moody, you can probably relate to what Jake is going through. It might happen frequently or only occasionally-- the ups and downs of your woman's emotions may seem like a puzzle you just can't figure out.
Living with a person who is moody can be tricky. You can't just ignore her when she's like this, but a part of you wishes that you could.
Try to remember these tips...
Remember that you get moody from time to time too.
Let's face it. We all have days (or weeks) where we are just off our game. Even men might get more easily irritated and maybe even more emotional during particular periods of our lives. Acknowledge that you get moody too sometimes.
Don't make it all about you.
When the person you love and care deeply about is distant, angry or weepy, it might be tempting to jump to worries that you've done something wrong. The trouble with assuming that your woman's moodiness is all about you is that it might not have anything to do with you...and it might.
In either case, when you start to create stories in your head about how you've upset her or made a mistake, you might be getting yourself all worked up and moody too! This won't help you find the right words to say-- it will mainly create more tension between you two.
Don't make it all about her.
On the other hand, don't discount that you might have played a role in whatever is going on with your woman.
Don't tell yourself a story like, "She's just being emotional again" or "She must have PMS (premenstrual syndrome)." Observe that your woman seems upset, isn't acting like her usual self or whatever it is that you notice.
Then, get curious and find out what's going on and how you can help the two of you move closer together again. This might include giving her space so that she can work out whatever is bothering her.
You might ask her questions like this: "I feel tension between us. Is this what you feel too? Are you willing to share with me what's going on for you right now? Can you please tell me some ways that I could support you right now?"
