subject: Taking Time before Rushing into Divorce [print this page] Taking Time before Rushing into Divorce Taking Time before Rushing into Divorce
Marital problems don't always lead to divorce. At times, such problems may cause you to feel that it's off to the courthouse but it doesn't have to come to that point. Getting into a marriage may look just as easy as saying that "I do" but believe me it is also a lot of work. The stress of everyday life can be overwhelming at times and this may cause us to lose focus on your married life and worse, magnify any marital issues or problems already present.
Most marital problems are typical. In other words, there will come a time in your marriage that you will be faced with the same issues most married people face. No one can really gauge marital problems to be surmountable or not. Sometimes, the commitment you and your spouse share will determine your strength as a couple and how hard the both of you are willing to work things out once the problems started coming. But if that day comes that divorce already comes to your mind, try to ask yourself first some question:
When have you last sat down with your spouse and engaged in a conversation?
Are you getting tired of fighting with your spouse?
Does everything lead to an argument?
Does your spouse seem to just can't do anything right anymore?
Have you been feeling a gradual loss of interest when you're together?
Would you rather be anywhere than with your spouse?
Has the idea of sex causes you to shudder?
Have you been thinking of getting into an affair or are you in one already?
Has love been replaced by bitterness?
If you have answered yes to most of the questions, this doesn't automatically mean that you are heading for a divorce. What this means is that your marriage is on the rocks and acceptance of the situation is always the first step to a resolution. Now is the right time to put your commitment to the test. Steps need to be taken. However, you must decide if you still want to patch things up or start early on the divorce process, which by the way is a much harder work that the marriage itself.
Getting stuck in an unhappy marriage where not either of you is trying to work it out should not be an option. Try everything you can to save your marriage or you will end up separating and it won't be easy as saying "I don't want this anymore."
