subject: Has Your Marriage Gone Stale [print this page] Has Your Marriage Gone Stale Has Your Marriage Gone Stale
At the start there was love and romance, you really connected with each other! As time passed you got more used to each other, more settled in you ways, the early romance started to fade and you have ended up living a dull, boring routine. Youdo not do anything together anymore, you possibly recognise the problem but you have both got stuck in such a deep rut that you do not know how to break out of it. With a marriage gone stale, what do you do, can you give it the life that it once had?
If your marriage has gone stale it suggests that there are real problems within the relationship that you have to address. If you keep drifting on, neither you or your partner will have anything resembling a life or the fulfilling relationship that you deserve. In a worst case scenario you could drift so far apart that you could end up in divorce.
Have you stopped communicating with each other? This is how things start to go wrong in the first place. Would I be right in thinking that neither of you have psychic powers so if something is going wrong, how will you be able to identify it and deal with it if neither of you are talking about it?
You have really got to spend more time together! You need to recapture the magic that you felt when you first started going out together. Go to the movies, go for walks, hold hands and look up at the stars, do everything and anything that can bring you closer together and get you spending more time together.
O.K, I appreciate that over time the interests that you shared originally might have drifted away, so find new interests. You might like doing things that bores your partner to tears, trymaking a commitment to each other that you will join your partner at the ball game or a romantic movie at least a couple of times a month, you never know, much to your horror, you might even enjoy yourselves.
You can try things that you have never done before, travel to new places, find a project around the house, take up a cause together, just so long as you find something that interests you both and gets you spending more time together.
It will take some time and effort to climb out of your rut. Learning how to communicate again, how to enjoy life together again will probably be strange at first but look at the rewards. Being in each others company should not be a chore, it should be something that you look forward to and cherish. If you keep doing things together, if you keep talking about everything, if you keep your love alive then your relationship can only go from strength to strength, if you let things slip you could lose everything so please do not lose anymore time, get back to enjoying life, together. I hope that you are able to work through your difficulties and start to enjoy a new and more fulfilling relationship together.
