subject: Not Tonight Dear - What To Do When Sex Gets Boring [print this page] Not Tonight Dear - What To Do When Sex Gets Boring
When you've been with someone for a long time, whether dating or married, at some point the relationship tends to become stale. What was once exciting has now become commonplace. That goes for your discussions, the things you used to do together and it even includes sex. There is nothing worse than trying to convince your special someone to want to have sex with you. It's humiliating, it's frustrating, and it's downright wrong. Luckily, there are ways to spice up the bedroom once the spark has dimmed to a dull glow. You can find that way at your local adult shop.
You are probably thinking that sex toys are for younger/kinkier/wilder people. But that's nonsense. There are sex toys for men, women, gay couples, straight couples, and there is no limit to the amount of toys various companies have come up with. There are vibrator type toys, there are rubber masturbation sleeves, there are oils and lotions, and so much more. All you have to do is go into your local sex toy shop and you'll see that there are sex toys for every comfort level imaginable. Even the person who has never used a toy before will find something to suit them.
Introducing Sex Toys into the Bedroom
Obviously, if you are reading this, you are trying to do something about the staleness in your sex life. You may feel the staleness, too, but you're willing to do something about it. Your partner may not have that same motivation, at least not yet. For that reason, you may need to surprise your partner with the vibrator or whatever other sex toy you wish to introduce in order to bring that spark back.
Whatever you choose, however, make sure it matches your partner's comfort level also. For instance, if you are a woman and your husband has never used adult toys before and you suddenly whip out a whip and ball gag, he might start running for the court house to start divorce proceedings. Ease your partner into the adult toys and you'll have a much better experience.
To properly introduce the toy into the bedroom, don't introduce it before hand. If your significant other rebuffs your advances every time you ask, then introducing a toy isn't going to change anything. In fact, it's probably going to start an argument because you're trying to fix things and he/she isn't trying, etc. The better way is to get the other person into it by pleasuring them. Then, when things are hot and heavy, which usually doesn't take long once you actually get going, then you should introduce it. You may just find it's the best thing that happened to both of you.
Bringing the Spark Back
When you introduce a vibrator or any other sex toys into your relationship, it can almost feel like it's the first time again. That's because the newness is back. Once more you have the excitement of the two of you doing something together that you've never done before. Soon, you'll be back on track and never again will you hear, "Not tonight, dear." Instead, you'll likely hear, "Where and what time?"
