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Online Dating Rules for You...
That headline seems ridiculous, right? I mean, what is dating if not extremely, completely, horrendously, desperately personal? How can you go about searching for the one person that makes your heart feel whole without getting at least a little bit personal?
It seems weird, but when it comes to looking for love online, you need to remember that it's not about you -- at least not for awhile. Most of us who've dipped even a toe into the tepid waters of online dating have felt at certain times that maybe we're just not made for computer-based romance. We're not photogenic enough or we just can't write; our icebreakers keep getting rejected and our winks are never returned.
If you happen to be one of the thousands who isn't having success on the dating sites, you should definitely consider tweaking your profile and having a friend take some pictures that show off your good side. But once you've done that, you need to keep in mind that your digital dry spell is probably temporary. Anyone who's tried out one of the many dating sites knows that luck tends to ebb and flow like the member pool. But most importantly, when someone flakes out on you or makes it clear that they don't share your feelings of attraction, you need to not take it personally.
The truth is, you can't possibly know why that girl isn't interested. Maybe you she hates dogs and you have a boxer. Maybe she's intimidated by your intellectual prowess and professional success. Or maybe she just met someone and wants to see where it goes. No matter what, it ultimately has very little to do with you. And while we're all tempted to decide that it's our massive forehead and clown-like ears, the more likely scenario is that she had something else going on ... or she just wasn't your type anyway.
7 comments
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5/29/10 05:18:16
the tips are so inspiring thanks an keep up the good work -- maggie
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6/26/10 02:33:24
Yes, online dating is a tough world to navigate. However, I will say that something I found online that has been helpful for me is Wisemuv (just google search it). You are able to get anonymous feedback on what your friends really think about your relationship. The service at Wisemuv is very personalized. So I think the internet is not completely impersonal when it comes to dating. -- Ingrid
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7/03/10 11:47:07
There is also something I have to add to this article. Online dating sites favour women heavily. Given traditional gender roles of men chasing women and not the other way around, the average woman will get 200-300 responses and the cute ones get thousands of requests to get to know her better. This means that the average guy will have to write hundreds of emails and winks and whatnot before getting a favourable response. Rather than spending all that time writing emails, maybe the time is much better spent going out and socialising and meeting new people naturally. -- Adrian
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8/11/10 09:52:22
Definitely a great article. People who communicate w. you online (like your pics./profile) and then flake out used to make me feel bad. And then I realized, they are nothing more than a computer screen/piece of plastic at that point. I did have one nearly 3 year relationship w. an eharmony person. I have gone to a bunch of weddings where they met online. So-do not give up yet!!!! Rebecca -- Rebecca
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8/23/10 09:16:18
After 7 days talking through a dating site to a man I thought was a US soldier in Iraq I realised, due to their lack of command of the English language, that I was being 'scammed' probably by Nigerians. This soldiers photos are probably on a lot of dating websites. These scammers have put my photo on a dating site also. It has left me with a sour taste on my tongue. Beware of scammers! -- Patricia - UK
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8/29/10 12:47:58
It was a nice article. But I found a product related to flirting while I was browsing. That was very helpful for me in so many instances. you can google for "magical art of flirting". It was simply awesome. It was so much better than this article. -- venk
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10/03/10 04:10:26
I hear you? That why I think dating online is the way to find and screen someone. But do keep in mind be up front with your date everything else seem to fall smoothly. Thanks -- xixi
