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Going through a break up with someone you thought was the one can be devastating for you. The reason for the break up will not make it any better or worse, it will be a bad emotional experience regardless. What takes place after having broken up with someone? There is actually a series of events or stages a person will go through as they deal with this.
What will be experienced fist is the mourning stage. You are going to feel sad and be emotional at this stage. You need to give yourself some time to get over the break up and get your thoughts in order. It is ok to cry and seek support from friends to help out.
You will next become very angry and start to remember the things about your ex you do not like. You may find yourself seeking revenge on your ex but do not do anything, control your rage so you do not get yourself in trouble.
You may find yourself doing things to preoccupy your mind. How many times can you clean your bathroom? This is like a defense mechanism that helps you take your mind off your situation. Do not use this to cover up your emotional feelings, you must let those go.
You are going to find yourself lonely and wanting to blame somebody for this break up. First, do not blame yourself or your ex because the two of you probably contributed to this break up in some way or other. If you are lonely now would be a good time to seek out your friends and rebuild your relationships with them.
You need to move through these stages as fast as you can. If you can not move on and have lost the will to get out of the house and do things or cry a lot, it would be ok to seek out professional counseling to help you get past it.
