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Dealing with break up pain is much like experiencing the physical loss of a family member or a loved one. Life just doesn't feel the same without them. "How can you go on," you might ask yourself? "How will I ever get through this?"
While there is no quick and easy method, no way to just stop painful feelings, here are some tips to help you cope:
1 - Don't Suppress Your Emotions
Some people make the mistake of burying their emotions in an effort to avoid them entirely. The problem is that feelings that aren't dealt with continue to build up, causing additional stress and anxiety or even leading to depression. Sooner better than later, those feelings need to be let out.
It's perfectly okay to feel the pain and anxiety that you are experiencing right now. These feelings are a part of the break up process, and they should be dealt with, not avoided. Allow yourself to express your feelings in whatever healthy ways in which you can. Now, I don't mean you should chain yourself to your ex's front porch demanding that he/she take you back. But, when you are alone or in the presence of a close, trusted friend, you should let those painful feelings out.
2 - Don't Avoid Your Friends And Family
Break ups can be very depressing. Right now, you may feel as though you just have no motivation to go out and do the things that you normally would do for fun. However, one thing you shouldn't avoid is spending time with your family and close friends. These are the people that will be there for you and help you get through the break up pain.
One of best ways of dealing with break up pain is to talk to someone about it. Your friends and family, just as we all, have probably been through a break up or two in their lives. They know what you are going through, and they will usually be more than happy to offer up a friendly ear. Just having someone listen to your feelings can be of tremendous help.
3 - Don't Dwell On The Break Up Excessively
You shouldn't spend all of your time dwelling in your hurt feelings. While this may sound as though it goes against the first tip, it doesn't. Do deal with your emotions directly while it is necessary for healing, but don't continue to mope around forever. Part of the healing process when dealing with break up pain is that you continue to live and enjoy your life.
Try to get out and do the things that you love to do. Instead of dwelling in what you've lost, try to embrace what you've gained. There may be many things that you loved to do that while you were in your relationship, you simply didn't have as much time to do like reading, bike riding, or whatever hobbies you are interested in. Get out and enjoy yourself.
