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Nowadays, a lot of marriages don't last long enough to realize the oath "until death do us part". If you take a time and see why women leave husbands, you'll realize that most of the problems that cause it can be resolved if you are willing to put some efforts into it. Here are the 4 reasons why women leave husbands, and what can be done about them.
Problem 1 He's Not Working Hard Enough
Marriage requires lots of work, and if you are married, you know what I mean. However, many women leave their husbands simply because they think that he's stopped putting the effort into it. When women see their partners start to turn them off, it is the beginning of the end. She feels like she's putting in all the effort, and she figures "Why bother?"
This is tough for men to comprehend. Often, they feel like they are working hard at their jobs, and this is their contribution to the relationship. They are worn out by this contribution, and it makes THEM feel unappreciated and triggers resentment. But, what she's talking about is emotional commitment.
What You Can Do Spend some time together. Plan it, like it's a meeting with a client or customer. Make time together and ensure that it stays focused on both of you. It's just as simple as that.
Problem 2 Where is The Affection?
Apart from his time and effort, women also need affection. This naturally dwindles down from the first date to thirty years of married life. However you can't let this happen! It's just as important now as it was when you were first dating. Lots of guys don't realize this.
Without that spark of affection, a marriage will become a partnership and nothing more. It might not even be a friendship anymore, and this is serious. Truth be told, women need love, affection and intimacy much more than men do, and this includes what goes on in the bedroom.
What You Can Do Start going out on dates again. Go back to those magical beginning days. Spend some time making a little love.
Problem 3 You Just Don't Listen
Within her needs, a woman also needs to be listened to. Plenty of women report their husbands' inability to listen as reason number one. Essentially, the issue is not that men don't listen; it is that they simply cannot stop themselves from offering their ideas and trying to "fix" things. It's part of a man's primal nature, I guess.
What You Could Do Ask her about her day, then shut up and listen when she's talking. Ask her open-ended questions such as "How did that make you feel?" Don't worry about solutions; your listening is enough.
Problem 4 Cheating
This one is fairly easy to understand. He has an affair, she finds out, and then it's over. However, there is a deeper truth concealed behind it. Having an affair is marriage suicide and the majority of men realize it. You know that your wife won't give you a second chance if she finds out. No other woman's really worth all that, and you know it.
Whenever a woman finds out that her husband's had an affair, it opens a whole Pandora's Box of negative feelings about him. It also uncovers all her negative feelings about herself. This double whammy is a lot more than most women can deal with, and that's why it's time for divorce.
What You Can Do Men who are cheating should STOP right now, and then look for the actual reasons why they're doing it. This is the real problem, and once you solve this, you'll be happy in your marriage again. If your wife caught you (believe me, she will; it's just a matter of time), you will have a long painful process to win her trust back.
There might be other reasons or issues you do not know, read save a broken relationship to know how to deal with it.
Keeping a marriage requires some efforts. If you notice the signals that she's considering to leave, then you should ACT; RIGHT NOW. Keep in mind that you're the only person that can save your marriage. See my another look at Save My Marriage Today for suggested expert help in this matter.
