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Sexual frames may seem like an alien concept, but you're actually just creating a scenario wherein you can direct the conversation from safe topics to more playful ones. Sexual frames can be made up of topics you talk about, and the ideas that you plant in a girl's mind while you're having your talk. Using sexual frames to gradually escalate toward intimacy or a date is a well-known seduction strategy. For starters, you can try the you-her-us frame model.
This model involves sharing something about yourself, encouraging her to talk about herself, and discussing things the two of you have in common. Keep the conversation flowing, while using all your senses to detect subtle hints from the girl.
A good type of sexual frame to focus on is the "grounding story." This is simply a story about yourself that you share with a woman to give her an idea of who you are as a person. It's very important to make a girl feel like she knows something about you. Hint on what you like to do, your attitude toward life in general, and the underlying reasons why you do the things you do.
Making her open up can be done using frames. Discuss some things that will provoke her into giving her point of view. Comment on her likes and dislikes while mentally categorizing the things that you have in common. When she talks about being independent when it comes to making decisions, perk up. If she claims that she goes after what she wants, she may be conveying her willingness to hit the sack with you if she feels attracted enough.
Don't worry about the truth in your stories, as long as you can use them to set up the next frame and the next, until she is responding in the way that you expect her to. You can use several sexual frames, starting with light topics, and then moving on to more playful scenarios that get her excited about you in a more intimate way.
Then, finish with the frame involving "us". Through words and actions, make her see that you have so much in common, and there is an undeniable connection. High fives, playful touching and even jokes that get her drawn into you in a sexual way can be great for your ultimate objective. Hint that you "will" be great together if you decide to pursue the relationship. If you can get to this point, it means you've successfully framed yourself and your interaction as something that could be the start of a great relationship.
Note that you don't have to describe the whole scenario to her; just a kernel of truth is enough. For instance, use a grounding story that showcases your strengths, but leave out the part that puts you in a bad light. As you get better at creating frames, you'll eventually learn to figure out what a woman's first impression of you is and how you can hammer down that impression if it has led to her getting marginally attracted to you.
Sexual frames are important if your goal is to warm a girl up to the thought of sleeping with you on the same night. Get her thinking of you, and forming her impression of you inside her head. More importantly, have her imagining what it would be like to have someone like you as a boyfriend or a lover.
