subject: Want to Get a Second Date? How NOT to Do It [print this page] Want to Get a Second Date? How NOT to Do It
Do you have first dates, and can't seem to get a second date? Are you wondering what happened when he doesn't call after that first evening? Would you like to know if it's something you said? The fact is that it might be. But it's up to you whether you get a second date, and you might be blowing it if you do any of the following.
No-no #1 Talk about marriage and kids.
It's only a first date. All you need to do is see if you get along, and whether you have any fun together. You might have a no-nonsense approach, and want to determine right away if he can fill the role that you want a man to fill in your life.
If you talk about marriage and kids right away, you are going to scare him off. Don't put him on the spot like that. You might have a plan for your life and where you want it to go, but put it on hold for one night.
No-no #2 Badmouth your ex.
You might have come out of your last relationship with an ex that is a living example of what you don't want in a man. But, if you abuse him to your date, that new guy isn't going to want to be your next ex. Avoid this topic.
There is plenty to talk about without putting anyone down, and that includes your ex. In fact, it is best to avoid the subject of past relationships altogether unless he brings it up first. Sometimes, you can get bogged down in too much information.
No-no #3 Talk nonstop.
You want to start to get to know each other. But don't subject him to a relentless monologue about youwhat you do, what you thing, how wonderful you are. You need to show some interest in him, too.
If you tend to talk too much when you're nervous, be especially careful here. Remember that you should be asking as many questions as you are giving answers. Show some interest in him.
If you find that you have been guilty of these errors in the past, recognize that that might be the reason that you didn't get a second date.
