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both of you. Would you like to take your new man down the road to commitment? Are you ready to seal the deal on your relationship with that exciting new guy? Are you tired of feeling uncertain about where you are headed with him? Do you need a few pointers to move in the right direction? You just might need a few directions on the road to commitment.
Step #1 Don't indulge in wishful thinking.
This is a very tempting trap that we have probably all fallen into at one time or another. But it can lead to eventual heartbreak. Don't assume that he feels a certain way just because you want him to. And don't read into things if he hasn't actually made any statements.
You need to try to be as clear-headed as you can right now. If you have known each other for a while, you can simply talk to him. But until you are ready for that, don't assume that you know what he's thinking. He might be feeling very differently than you want him to.
Step #2 Make him want to keep you.
A man will want to commit to you when he understands that you're too good to lose. And, sometimes, bringing a guy to this realization is counterintuitive. You might want to hold on as tightly as you can to him. Perhaps you are nagging or pressuring him, when what you really need to do is to be prepared to put some distance between you.
Don't continually bring the subject up, or insert hints into every conversation. In fact, if he seems reluctant, you might need to drop it altogether. Spend less time with him, and give him a chance to miss you.
Step #3 Don't cater to him.
If you hover over him, pamper him, and attend to his every need when he hasn't given you anything in return, why should he move down the road to commitment? It is a big mistake to act like his girlfriend in hopes that that will make you his girlfriend. He needs to have less of your generosity when he hasn't committed, not more.
Decide what you really are willing to do for a guy who is not your boyfriend. And don't give him any more than that. If he wants a devoted, attentive partner, then he will have to realize that you aren't just doing him favors, and he will need to decide.
Step #4 Give him time, but decide how much time is ok with you.
It is important not to rush things, and your guy might just be slow getting to the point. You do need to give him some room. But decide how much time works for you, and don't let him keep you dangling. The road to commitment must be traveled by
