subject: What Are The Questions You Ask Yourself? [print this page] Are you tired? Frustrated or angry? Depressed? Overwhelmed? Do you feel anxious? Do you feel like you just cannot cope?
The good news there is some simple, easy, pleasant and effective ways to manage these painful events.
You will find there are a number of personal strategies that will have you feeling better quickly. You will also be able to gain a greater insight and understanding about your feelings and behavior.
This simple process will also give you an intimate access to your inner most feelings and thoughts, thus helping you to make positive health and happiness changes.
You can get started by slowing down and beginning to listen to your ever present self talk. These conversations are sitting most of the time just outside of your conscious focus so you will want to quite yourself so you can become more aware of them.
Listen to the things you are saying in your mind.
To begin the process asks yourself. Do I frequently say or ask myself any of the following questions?
Why me?
Why do I have to put up with this?
When is it ever going to end?
Why do I always have to struggle?
Why cannot my friends/family be more_______?
Why do I always have to take care of things?
Why cannot others help?
Why are people against me?
Why do I have to live like this?
Why do I always have to suffer?
When am I going to get an opportunity to _____?
Why cannot I be lucky?
When is it going to be my turn?
Why not me?
Now go back and read the list slowly. Read each question, and wait for an answer before going to the next question. Take a couple of minutes to do this now.
Did you notice what happened? Did you notice your automatic responses to these questions?
If you did not, try it again, and listen. Your mind instantly responds to these questions with answers.
Where did these answers come from? Are they something you have consciously chosen or decided?
For the next couple of days allow yourself to be aware of the questions you ask. Write them down. Practice hearing the answers your mind provides you to these questions.
Simply observe the questions and responses you automatically think or say. Finally, notice how you feel physically, mentally and emotionally.
So to recap:
1.Become aware of the questions you ask frequently without thinking.
2.Notice the answers your mind automatically provides.
3.Feel. Feel how these questions and answers affect you mentally, emotionally and physically.
4.Feel how your feelings are before and after you ask the questions.
5.Notice if there are any resistance to certain or specific questions.
6.Are any questions particularly painful or disturbing?
7.Allow yourself to hold and feel good, happy and pleasant feelings.
When you allow yourself to feel and experience your thoughts and feelings not only are you on a path to greater awareness. You also will be happier and healthier mentally, spiritually, physically and emotionally.
