subject: How can I get back together with my ex when it was a long distance relationship? [print this page] How can I get back together with my ex when it was a long distance relationship?
Did you and your ex break-up because of the distance in miles have come between you? Well, there's one main problem here. The key to making long distance romance work is communication! You must keep the phone lines open and the US Post Office busy or your relationship will be a flop! In a long distant romance it is absolutely essential that you both have commitment, communication, honesty, flexibility, and trust. You should be able to be independent, and you must main a high level of optimism while you are separated by the miles. If you are trying to recover your long distant romance, first you must find out where the problem lies within your relationship. This is the first step as in all relationship battles, regardless if your ex lives next door or if they live on the other side of the country. Once you identify the problem, you can begin solving it. To begin with, though you and your ex have parted ways, you can still let him or her know that you are thinking about them. You can send your ex nice, friendly, noncommittal emails, or write a short letter just telling him or her how you are doing and what is going on. In letters such as these do not bring up the past, because at this point you are trying to get back as friends first. Becoming caring friends again is critical if you want to rebuild communication in your relationship and eventually get back together. So for the moment, work on being friends again you can capture the romantic past later on, once the two of you have moved in that direction. Every now and then, send your ex a surprise, friendly care package, filling it with little silly things that will make him or her laugh and think of you and your time together. Send him special gifts on special occasions like his birthday with no strings attached. Send her a book you've just read and loved. Just keep things happy and open! Perhaps as time passes your ex may request that the two of you meet up in an internet chat room. You know, you may be miles away, but with the use of the internet, your ex is just a click away. The, when things are looking good and your boyfriend or girlfriend is giving hints that there could be a new romantic relationship brewing once again, you can make arrangements so that you can come together geographically. Invite him for a friendly visit so that you can reconnect and reunite. It would be during this time that you iron out any and all past mistakes and start out fresh and anew. One thing to stress though, is that whenever you approach your ex after a breakup, whatever the cause of the relationship breakdown, you MUST be really careful that you don't look desperate for their attention and obsessed with regaining their love. This will either just scare them away, or lead to a really unbalanced degree of power in the relationship. Respect yourself, respect your ex, and begin to travel the road of friendship once again. Once you do, the miles between you will be like nothing, and you stand a wonderful chance of getting back together for the long run!
Hillary Hart is a renowned relationship expert who helps couples fall back in love and get through their relationship difficulties. To rea
communication! You must keep the phone lines open and the US Post Office busy or your relationship will be a flop! In a long distant romance it is absolutely essential that you both have commitment, communication, honesty, flexibility, and trust. You should be able to be independent, and you must main a high level of optimism while you are separated by the miles.
If you are trying to recover your long distant romance, first you must find out where the problem lies within your relationship. This is the first step as in all relationship battles, regardless if your ex lives next door or if they live on the other side of the country. Once you identify the problem, you can begin solving it. To begin with, though you and your ex have parted ways, you can still let him or her know that you are thinking about them. You can send your ex nice, friendly, noncommittal emails, or write a short letter just telling him or her how you are doing and what is going on. In letters such as these do not bring up the past, because at this point you are trying to get back as friends first. Becoming caring friends again is critical if you want to rebuild communication in your relationship and eventually get back together. So for the moment, work on being friends again you can capture the romantic past later on, once the two of you have moved in that direction.
Every now and then, send your ex a surprise, friendly care package, filling it with little silly things that will make him or her laugh and think of you and your time together. Send him special gifts on special occasions like his birthday with no strings attached. Send her a book you've just read and loved. Just keep things happy and open! Perhaps as time passes your ex may request that the two of you meet up in an internet chat room. You know, you may be miles away, but with the use of the internet, your ex is just a click away. The, when things are looking good and your boyfriend or girlfriend is giving hints that there could be a new romantic relationship brewing once again, you can make arrangements so that you can come together geographically. Invite him for a friendly visit so that you can reconnect and reunite. It would be during this time that you iron out any and all past mistakes and start out fresh and anew.
One thing to stress though, is that whenever you approach your ex after a breakup, whatever the cause of the relationship breakdown, you MUST be really careful that you don't look desperate for their attention and obsessed with regaining their love. This will either just scare them away, or lead to a really unbalanced degree of power in the relationship. Respect yourself, respect your ex, and begin to travel the road of friendship once again. Once you do, the miles between you will be like nothing, and you stand a wonderful chance of getting back together for the long run!
Hillary Hart is a renowned relationship expert who helps couples fall back in love and get through their relationship difficulties.
