subject: A Common Relationship Killer - Negativity Towards Your Partner [print this page] A Common Relationship Killer - Negativity Towards Your Partner
You see it in comedies and movies. You read about it in books and magazines. It has become a joke among most people and is looked upon as normal. But it's not funny and it's not normal and it can do a lot of damage to your relationship instead of creating laughs and amusement for others.
It's being negative towards your partner. Any kind of negativity that you can dish out creates a rocky relationship. You can be rude, annoyed, angry, mean, resentful, disappointed, bitter, or jealous. There are so many emotions that are better left for the comedies to handle and should be dealt with and avoided in a real relationship.
Do you constantly put down everything your partner says or tell them that they do everything wrong. This is hard on a person to hear all the time and do you really think it's going to make them want you more? Nope, it's going to push them away.
If you exhibit any of these emotions or traits you need to work on them and begin respecting and understanding your partner for the person they are and not the person you want them to be.
First, figure out why you are being this way and why you are having the feelings you are feeling. Dig deep within your soul and be honest with yourself to find out the truth. There has to be a reason you feel the need to treat your partner with negativity.
Maybe it's just the fact that it is how you were raised and it's what you saw right from a young age. It's become normal for you to act this way.
Or maybe it's because you have a problem with having things and doing things a certain way and no one can live up to your expectations.
Once you realize, truthfully and honestly, why you are like this then you can begin to deal with these emotions and start to correct them.
Start to learn how to work through all of this and start to treat your partner better. We have tons of sources to get help and information we need. Information is power. The more knowledge you have, the more you understand the how, why, and what of the things you do. There are many self help books, articles, and magazines out there. Use them to your advantage.
Sometimes it just takes one person saying one thing to open your eyes even if a thousand people have been saying the same thing in your ears for years.
Watch self help programs that are becoming more and more popular nowadays.
While it may be more expensive counseling is another route that you may want to take to understand why you do what you do and how to rectify it.
Whatever you choose, you should do something.
If you go on treating your partner poorly then you are looking towards a unhappy and, most likely, lonely future.
