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Resentment is an unfortunate part of relationship life, and many people have difficulty letting go of it. If you can't seem to move past a recent fight, check out these simple tips to help you deal with your negative feelings and work toward forgiveness.
Talk about it.
Just because you're still angry at your partner doesn't mean you can't talk to him about how you're feeling. The quickest route to moving past resentment is to get it out in the open, so do both yourself and your significant other a favor and let him know you're having trouble getting past your last fight. Rather than showing your residual anger (through the silent treatment or smaller fights) you'll be getting your feelings out where they can be discussed, and ideally, resolved.
Write it down.
If you're not ready to open up to your man about your mounting resentment, grab your journal and start writing. Getting your feelings and thoughts down on paper can improve your state of mind immensely. Don't put any pressure on yourself to write in any certain way; simply write stream-of-consciousness style, jotting things down as they pop into your head without worrying about grammar and sentence structure. You're not writing the next great American novel; you're trying to unburden yourself of negative thoughts by writing them down.
Give yourself time.
You may just need a little time to cool down before you forgive and/or forget. If your feelings get hurt or you sense that you've been treated poorly, you shouldn't expect to feel fabulous the next day. If you allow yourself some time to come around, you'll be more likely to let go of resentment naturally.
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If you and your partner are feeling a bit lackluster lately, it may be time to boost relationship morale. Long days, stressful jobs and endless household chores can put even the happiest among us into a rut, so here are a few ways you and your man can put some fun back into your relationship.
Get out of town.
Take a vacation and spend a week on the beach together if you can. It will do wonders to relieve stress and help you reconnect. If a trip to an all-inclusive resort isn't in the cards financially, you can still enjoy the stress-relieving benefits without having to get on a plane. Even spending one or two nights away from home, at a bed-and-breakfast or boutique hotel will allow you to recharge as a couple and revitalize your relationship.
Treat yourselves.
Instead of going to the same restaurant every time to go out to dinner, or worse, hitting the drive-through and calling it a date, treat yourselves to a nice meal at a restaurant you've been dying to try. You both deserve a treat once in a while, even if it's out of your usual price range.
Switch things up.
Inject some energy into your relationship by switching up your everyday routine. From trying new recipes and hanging out with new people to shopping at different stores and having sex at different times, do whatever you can to change the same old same old. It may feel strange at first, but you'll soon realize how stuck you were in your old patterns -- and you're both likely to appreciate the change.
