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Give Your Ex the Cold Shoulder For Awhile To Get Them Back! It WORKS!
You might be, reasonably, asking yourself how you possibly go about giving your ex back if you are not talking to or seeing them. But just think about it for a minute - after the breakup, you are both feeling quite hurt and even resentful. This is not a desirable combination of feelings that is likely to lead to meaningful or fruitful conversation. Communications at this point are likely to only make matters worse as the two of you are far too emotional to speak about the breakup or the chance for reconciliation at the moment.
If you've given in to the temptation to call, text, or show up at your partners place since the breakup, you likely know exactly what I'm talking about. Your attempts were likely rebuffed, leaving you feeling even worse, and causing you to fall a few steps backwards in your attempts to get your ex back. Do not make the situation any worse by contacting them again. Give them what you BOTH need - time.
You will have to truly accept that you are broken up for the moment and that you will not see or speak to your ex for awhile. Just remember, it is far better to wait a little while, than to have your hopes of EVER getting your ex back dashed, by a stupid mistake. You will see each other again, and remind yourself of this to help make it easier to cope during the time apart.
To get your ex back, they need to miss having you around - and obviously, your incessant calling is not going to allow them to do that - so making yourself scarce for awhile will not only allow him to get over the bad, but to remember the good, and he'll start to miss you and actually want you around again.
This is the best way to give your ex back, as it allows them the illusion of control and DOES allow them to come back around at their own pace. After having time to get over the pain of the split, they will begin to miss you like mad, and this will get to a point where they can no longer stand it and will contact you for a second chance.
