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Getting back with ex partners is the right choice for many couples. After you have really thought about what you want and how your relationship is worth saving it is all about doing the right things.
Unfortunately many people try to get their ex back by reacting and not thinking things through. How you react right from the beginning can change the outcome.
If you have already harassed your ex with texts, emails and hundreds of voice messages that they are never going to listen to just stop. Unfortunately all you have done is tell your ex that they made the right decision and they are better off without you.
Fortunately things can be turned around. So do not give up. A better approach is do the one thing that seems counter intuitive. Stop being a part of their lives. This is probably not what you expected, but here is why it is so powerful.
People want what they cannot have. We are all guilty of that. When your ex said the relationship was over, they thought they wanted space and a chance to look at greener grass.
If you keep in the picture they are going to resent it and still be angry. However by giving them what they wanted they will actually get the chance to stop being angry and find out just how much they relied on you and enjoyed being with you. The good memories will filter back.
The next big step is the apology, you cannot expect to move forward if there are any deep issues that have not been resolved.
Just texting, emailing or leaving messages saying you are sorry will not work. It has to convince your ex that you are sincere and mean every word of it.
There is a better way of doing it. The hand written letter, this form of communication is so seldom used today that it will be seen as something special. Keep the tone of it light, but the apology must be heartfelt and acknowledge how you hurt them. Include an open invitation for them to contact you to catch up and discuss what you have been doing. Things you want to share. Make your ex curious, this is a very powerful emotion.
Then you need to sit back and wait for them to contact you. Often with this approach the wait is not long.
