subject: Ways To Get Your Ex Back Before You Ruin Your Chances Completely [print this page] Ways To Get Your Ex Back Before You Ruin Your Chances Completely
Before you start thinking about ways to get your ex back, the most important question is to ask yourself if the relationship is worth saving?
Some relationships are just not going to work.
A long term relationship that has lost its magic is certainly worth fighting for. Once you have decided that you really want to make this relationship work and you want your ex back it is time to look at a long term plan.
The first thing you have to do is go along with the breakup. Your ex has made it clear they want to finish the relationship. The majority of people if they did not see it coming are shocked and their first reaction is to desperately plead with the other person to stay together. That is the worst thing you can do, at this point your ex is not prepared to discuss other possibilities, they have made up their mind to end the relationship.
Let them go, or you walk away. Give yourself time to think and just as importantly give them time to think. The amazing thing is, once you are out of the picture and because you are not harassing them that is when they will start to think about you. At first your ex is going to be delighted with their freedom and the chance to do what they like. Then they will become curious about what you are doing.
Think about why you broke up. Was it because of something you did, or was it just a case of the relationship quietly fizzing out. If you really dig deep and know it was your fault, the issue at fault needs fixing. Because your ex is angry and disappointed trying to phone, email or text them is probably a waste of time. You need to make sure your apology is going to be accepted if there is any chance of a future.
Writing a hand written letter is a good way to contact your ex. It will come as a surprise and the chances are they will appreciate the effort that went into it. The tone of the letter is very important. It has to be sincere if you are including an apology and also non- threatening. Do not make any pleas about getting together at this point. Often your ex will contact you after reading the letter, but it might still be too early to suggest getting back together
Getting your ex back is done best by taking small steps and always leaving the door open for future contact.
Getting help to make a long term plan is available
