subject: Can I Get Back Together With My Ex? [print this page] Can I Get Back Together With My Ex? Can I Get Back Together With My Ex?
Are you or did you just go thru breaking up with your ex? Do you wonder if it is at all possible to get back together? Most adults have gone thru some kind of breakup, and most people just move on instead of trying to work things out to get back together. If you are done being the victim and honestly want to work at getting your relationship back then you do have some options.
Most of the time there is really no reason why two people can't work out their problems, if you realize why you broke up in the first place. None of us can go back in time and change the past, although it would be great! The first thing we have to do is realize what went wrong and identify the problem so we can learn from it. That, in my opinion, is really the only thing we can do with the past, learn from it and move on in a positive direction. There are many reasons why people break up, sometimes it may be one event that triggered it. Another thing might be that certain behaviors became intolerable and caused the breakup. Whatever the case, we need to figure out what happened so we can correct the problem in order to have our ex want to give us another chance. Also, so it will not happen again. If you know how, you can get your ex back, but to make it last you need a long term plan and knowing what happened is the first step.
The second step is to make sure you do not come across as being a needy person. We all feel like we cannot make it without our ex sometimes, but we should not make this too obvious as it is a big turn off for most people. Instead we should be strong letting people know that you are ok and can make it on your own if you have to. This shows self confidence which is an admirable trait and will attract people, not push them away like being needy will. When you work on your self esteem and confidence, your chances to get back with your ex are greatly increased.
Some of the worst things you can do is to try and get back at someone or try and make them jealous. Revenge is never good when trying to mend relationships and neither is jealousy. The last thing you want them to think if you really want them back is that you have moved on with someone else or that you got the last word or revenge. You want them to know that you are ok, but if they think you are moving on, then they will move on too. Just be strong and confident and forgive the past and honestly change for the better. These actions will attract your ex to come back.
