subject: The Top Three Dating Turnoffs You Better Avoid [print this page] The Top Three Dating Turnoffs You Better Avoid
Dating to many people is about the other person and how that person perceives of you. No wonder it is always advisable that we known are strong and weak points, and the qualities that we possess, both the good and the bad so we can know how to go about this whole dating thing and emerge successfully. The following are the leading dating pitfalls you are supposed to avoid so you can end up with that dream date.
1. Never leave everything to your partner
While it is always good to sometimes leave decision making to your partner when it comes to deciding where to go while on a date and what to do while there, sometimes it can become too burdensome for your spouse. It can be distasteful and boring to always be the one making decisions and besides, while you might end up enjoying yourself since the decision and idea was all yours in the first place, your partner may find you boring yet they are the one who left the decision making entirely up to you.
2. Never talk too much about yourself
While it is true we go on a date, especially a first date so we can learn more about the other person and hopefully forge a long-lasting relationship, talking non-stop about yourself can be a real turn-off, especially on a first date. You should measure your words and give your date some time to digest what you are saying and respond accordingly. Give them enough time to also talk about themselves so you get an opportunity to learn more about who they really are.
Try to ensure there is a back-and-forth type of communication between you two especially during the first dates as it will reflect the kind of communication you both shall have should the date materialize into a real relationship. Good and effective communication from both parties is the way to keep a romantic affair alive.
The best course of action is to share responsibilities of this nature and actually discuss on what is good for both of you. Take a back-and-forth discussion so you can both end up enjoying. If you find that you seem not to find something that both of you like in common, you can always take
turns. Today you can decide to follow the idea of one person and the next time you go on a date you follow that of the other person. Getting exposed to new ideas is one of the greatest parts of dating isn't it?
3. Don't have expectations
While it is human nature to have high expectations, when it comes to dating, ensure you don't have inappropriate expectations as you might end up disappointing yourself. Agreeing to go on a date with someone doesn't mean it is agreeing to have sex. By the same token, just because someone says they like you doesn't mean they want to start an exclusive and serious relationship with you. Ensure you communicate your heart desires to even out any misunderstandings. Expecting exclusivity or sex when the other party is not ready could end up sabotaging the relationship even before it starts.
