subject: Win Him Back – Build Your Confidence to Get Him Back [print this page] Win Him Back Build Your Confidence to Get Him Back
Would you be surprised if I told you that if you want to win him back, you need to build your confidence to get him back into your life for good?
It's true. You can get your ex boyfriend back, with effort and the right attitude. Is he worth it? Only you can answer that. If it's been more than a couple of weeks or so since the break-up, but you still are constantly thinking about him and going over who said what, who did what, and especially if you can't stop crying, can't sleep, and can't concentrate on anything else except him, it's time to pull yourself together.
If you're spending most evenings alone with a bag of chips in front of TV, slumpfing around in your sweats, and your friends are getting tired of excuses about why you don't want to do anything else, face it: you're wallowing.That's not to say that break-up pain isn't real, it is. But the only way to end it is to pick yourself up and start living again. That's also what will help win him back, if that's what you want.
Here are4 proven ways to change your attitude and build up your confidence to help attract him back into your life:
Get off the couch
Exercise is a known mood-enhancer! Buy a bike, go back to the gym, take up power walking or jogging, join a hiking club, or do whatever appeals that will get you moving. You'll feel better, shed a few pounds so you look better, get in shape and sleep better. You'll also meet some people (maybe including some hot guys) and your clothes will feel better.
Need some incentive to get you out the door? Adopt a rescue shelter dog. It's just about impossible to feel down when you're out with a happy dog. And remember, there are just two types of people at the dog park: married with single friends, and singles. It's an easy place to meet people including, maybe, a really cute guy. Even if you're not into dating, it's always nice when a handsome guy wants to talk to you, isn't it?
Eat better
Too many junk food dinners lately? Too much breakup comfort food? Enough. Get back on your healthy eating plan plenty of fresh veg and fruit, lean meats, fish and poultry, cut back on booze (if that's what you turn to for comfort) and you will see results in just a few weeks your skin will take on a healthy glow, you'll feel happier, and you'll build your confidence. Treat yourself to a make-over, starting with a spa day with a girlfriend (or your mum)
No cutting corners you want the full treatment the massage, the mani-pedi, the facial, the works. Nothing boosts confidence like a little pampering.
Go shopping
No, this isn't just retail therapy you need a new hairdo, maybe some highlights? Or a sexy new short style? Indulge in some make-up, new clothes for the upcoming season, new shoes or boots or sandals, a terrific new tote or handbag.
Take up an interest
Join a group. What have you been meaning to try, or learn? Sign up for a course, join a group, take some lessons. This could be anything skydiving, kayaking, circus school, conversational Japanese, playing in the community orchestra, or it could be a volunteer position greeting guests to your city and showing them around, teaching English to newcomers, helping kids who can't read at your local school. There are tons of ways to meet new people, and make a difference in someone else's life.
All of these steps will boost your confidence, which just naturally will attract good things, and good people, into your life possibly including your ex. You can bet that he will hear about how great you look, how happy, how confident this kind of news always travels back through mutual friends.
And when he hears, he's going to be curious. So he'll call. Just to chat. Or maybe meet up, for lunch. Keep the conversation pleasant, light and short. If you decide to see him, you'll look fabulous, be cheerful and confident, and keep the conversation on all the fun things you've been up to lately. He'll get the message there's a lot he's missing out on.
