subject: What Not to Say When Talking Dirty [print this page] What Not to Say When Talking Dirty What Not to Say When Talking Dirty
Soetimes dirt talk can go overboad. I'm not talking about thse times hen you sa things that mak ou blush the next dy whn ou think abut tem. I'm not even talking about those times your love starts lughing in the iddle of making lve becaus the words that came out of your mouth ere so illy. What I'm talking about ae those rather serious ties when yo sy something in th het f passion, only to find that your lover doesn't appreciate hearing it.
Know what to sa when taling dirty is all abut comunication, s if you'e talking naughty to yur partner on regulr basis, that's good! It eans you re both talking about hat you want and need in bed. You might think yu have talked about abolutely everything, but wht if yo suddenly discover yu haen't?
A good friend of mine one went oer the lin wit he drty talk. Her hsband wasn't int the idea of nyone ele in bed with them, but m friend loved th idea. In te het f passion, she looked down t er husband and sad, "I'm gong to invite another woman t wath you get off."
Pretty tme for a fantay, perhaps? But her husand immedately withdrew from her, not only pysically, ut emotionally s well. She had crossed line that e didn't lie, and things were rather iy frm hs sid of the bed for few nights.
To things went wrong hre. Firt, the commnication wasn't clear. Her husband ad said tat he wasn't into that particula fantasy, ut h hadn't asked er not t us it durng teir time in bed together. Perhaps he should hav knwn better, but in the hat of passion, do you really thnk bout what ou're saying? If the sex s rally good, you might not evn remember what you said!
The second thing that went wrng as the crossng of a boundary. Trust is very important n a sexual relationsip, and that trust extends to dirty talk. She had sad something that made hm ncomfortable, and to im, she had crossed a big boundary.
Th best way to make ure this doesn't happen to you s to be opn about evrything - including the things you dn't want! It's oftn easy to tll partner hat ou do ant frm sx, ut it's sometimes ver difficult t name ff the thngs tht you don't like. It's important t d it! Once yor partner nows our boundaries, then it' teir responsibility not to overtep those lines.
M friend and her husband worked things out, but they learned good lesson. Communiction s always key to drty talk - and if you g overboad, it' a sign that yo need to talk a bit mre before yo di into thos naughty words gain!
Always talk to your partner. It's the best way to mae sur your time in th bedroom - and out of t - stays a happy a possible.
