subject: The Keys to a Successful Relationship [print this page] The Keys to a Successful Relationship The Keys to a Successful Relationship
I think it's safe to say that everyone in this world wants a successful relationship and wants love. Every single person deserves that but some just don't know how to achieve that. I haven't had the world's most perfect relationships in fact far from it. But I learned from those, I learned from the mistakes I made. I'm here to tell what you I learned, what I found the keys of a happy relationship are.
Honesty: This is something that I'm sure everyone knows is important in a relationship. But despite knowing honesty is key, t it's still hard to be completely honest with your partner. Don't worry I know exactly how you feel. I had some wonderful men in my life but I just couldn't be honest with them, I wouldn't tell them exactly how I was feeling or what I wanted and because of that the relationships didn't last. It took me awhile to admit this to myself but it was my fault those relationships ended, not the man's fault. I wasn't trusting because of past issues but I let that interfere in my present, someone that I should never have done.
Needless to say honesty would have saved two wonderful relationships if I had just done it. Now this doesn't mean you need to tell your partner your entire life story, you don't have to tell them how your feeling at every single moment of your life, and you don't have to tell them all the dirty details of your past relationships. That is what most people consider taking it too far. However, what you should do is tell your partner if you're having a problem, tell them if something they did upset you, tell them if something they did made you feel good and happy. Your partner needs to know what doesn't work for you as well as what does. They need to know that they make you happy and that you really want to be with them. If you have something you want to tell them, tell them, don't hold it in.
Leave The Past Behind: Everyone on the face of this planet has had bad relationships. It's a horrible reality of life but what makes it worse is when you bring bad feelings from these rough relationships into your present good ones. In my experience nothing turns a date sour faster than when a man/woman asks about your past relationships and you start listing all the petty things that annoyed you. No one wants to hear your personal complaints about your ex, like he chewed to loud or she was always bad mouthing other women; those are petty things that make you seem like a petty person. And the first thing your date is going to think is "What am I getting myself into". However, if you have serious trust issues because of an abusive past relationship than that is something that should be discussed at some point.
Chances are if you are a woman telling a man that he is going to get protective and could even offer to kick your ex's ass, that has happened to me. On the same hand if you a man telling a woman about a abusive relationship chances are she will get protective as well and want to comfort you..
It's important to discuss something serious like abuse, that way if the relationship progresses but some of those trust issues remain he/she will understand. While abusive relationships leave their permanent scars (I understand) the worst thing you can do is let those scars ruin a potentially wonderful relationship. You have to work through those issues and learn to trust this new person your with. Remember the saying, "love like you have never been hurt".
Be Yourself: This is a fatal mistake that a lot of people make. They meet someone that they really like but realize they aren't this new person's type. Instead of letting it go they try and turn themselves into someone they aren't. The problem with this is you are starting your relationship out based on a lie and you can't keep being someone else forever. Eventually the relationship will blow up in your face. Not only that but do you really want to be with someone that doesn't love the real you?
If you want a lifelong happy relationship than you need to trust that you will find someone who is going to love you for who you are. If your new crush doesn't like the real you than they don't deserve you, it's as simple as that. Everyone has their perfect soul mate out there you just may to have use some patience while your waiting for them, but it will be worth the wait.
I hope that these three little tips have helped you out and helped you realize some things about successful relationships. I don't claim to know everything I'm just getting these from personal experience and hoping that it will prevent someone from making the same mistakes I made. Relationships can be very difficult and frustrating but when you find the right person and get to experience that wonderful relationship than it makes it all worth while.
