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Getting your ex back is doable, especially if you set your mind on it. It doesn't matter if your relationship ended with a lot of cursing and shouting. What's important is how you behave from here on.
First let's analyze the break-up. Did you try to remain calm and maintain composure while it was happening? If you did, then you're already one step ahead of the game. If not, don't worry. Worst things have happened to some people who still managed to get back together. Second, let's analyze your present state. Are you now getting back the confidence you somehow lost during the break up. Can you look yourself at the mirror and say that you can stand your ground and whatever happens, your happiness doesn't depend on other people but yourself? You need this self-confidence.
If you are still somehow clingy and needy, then you should not try getting them back. You'll only push them away.
Now, to begin getting them back, you must follow this simple steps.
1. Do a post breakup phone call.
This phone call won't be long. You won't cry, beg, crawl back during this call. The purpose of this call is to connect through a short, pleasant, casual phone conversation. Say sorry about what happened but don't go into the details of the breakup and stop throwing mud on your partner. Be calm and sincere and say sorry. Then check them out. Ask how their doing and see if you can invite them for a coffee.
2. Set up a coffee date.
This should be another short but pleasant encounter. Can you see the trend here? You want your partner to feel good again with you but limit that time together that they would crave more of it. During this time, you must again be calm, sincere, cool and simply talk about simple things. End the date with kiss on the cheeks and nothing more. Keep it short and simple.
3. Set up your first intimate date.
After getting her confidence back, then it's time to try to get intimate once again. However our rules should still be in effect. Every interaction should be pleasant and short. Don't remind them as much as you can of why you are no longer together. Try to be intimate but let them come on their own accord. If possible try to wear the same perfume you used to wear during your intimate moments, this will have some psychological effect on them.
If you see positive results from this, then you can keep doing it until finally you are both confident enough to restart the relationship.
