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TOP 7 MISTAKES TO AVOID IF YOU WANT TO GET YOUR EX BACK
Panic is usually the first feeling when confronted with marital problems, your mind somehow goes into auto pilot and starts churning out the first words that come into your mind as if it is going to save your marriage before things get out of control.
The problem here is that you are probably doing more harm than good.
All your instincts are preparing you for a battle but the key is to pull yourself away from the situation and get some perspective.
The guide covers in detail the seven most common mistakes to avoid.
The mistakes are summarised as follows;
1. Fix it as quickly as possible.
Very Important, most marital issues developed over a long period of time and probably have strong feelings attached. If your partner is unhappy it is important that you are able to acknowledge their feelings and address the issues in a structured and considered way.
2. It wasn`t me.
The next thing your inclined to do is deny or even blame your partner for the break up. The most important point here is that apportioning blame or point scoring isn`t going to save your marriage. The solution lies in both of you. Ask yourself, which is more important, being right or
being together.
3. Begging for forgiveness.
One of the most common reactions to a marriage crisis.
Begging the other for forgiveness, promising to change, you are sorry, everything will be different in the future. Think what this is doing to your credibility. Think about how your partner may react. Will they see themselves as dominant. Will they feel they now have power over you.
4. If your partner has given up, you should too.
The true test of the strength of your relationship is when your on the back foot, and the love you show your partner is not being reciprocated. If you are feeling sorry for yourself, STOP. Pity gets you nowhere. Self- belief and determination does. While you don`t have control over your partner you have complete control over yourself and how you react.
With the right attitude and proven techniques, YOU can save your marriage today and get back together with your ex.
5. Wishing you had your old life back.
Commonly when things are going from bad to worse one partner will just want things back the way they were, and will do almost anything to achieve it. The problem with that is that by simply stopping acknowledging their issues thinking its all in the past and lets just focus on the future won`t help. Ignoring issues usually means that they will be raised again at some point in the future with more intensity.
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6 . But they say they aren`t "in love" with me.
7. Suggesting a trial separation while you both think about what you want.
