subject: What Do You Do When Losing Your Soulmate [print this page] Losing your Soulmate is not something you plan Most of us want to feel secure with someone, to feel someone is committed to us and who never leaves us, no matter what. Someone we love and who loves us unconditionally. Ahhow good it is.
Usually, before a losing a soulmate and a break-up, there are signs. The insecure person ignores the signs and hangs on.
It's ironic, but the more consistent the signs, the stronger the insecure person hangs on. The goal is to be secure, but still need and want the balance of companionship.
The more insecure at the moment, the more any or us would want a good relationship to last. They've probably been hurt before, and they believe this person is "Mr. Right," or "Miss Right." They would rather extend delusion than face the facts.
The more secure person, however, comes to a point of recognizing the de-attractions and says,"Okay, what's up?" " Nothing?" "Baloney. Tell me you can't handle this relationship. It's okay. If I'm wrong, please let me know."
But no response
So here'snother idea: "For now, I'm off. I'll be waiting for a week or so. I love you enough to give you time. I love you enough to understand things aren't always perfect.
Think yourself over. Think me over. I'll wait. In a week or so. I'll find a way to heal my hurt if this is over. If not, let's find a good way to put it together from the beginning again."
But what if you don't have a chance to speak to the one you've lost? Maybe it isn't death. Maybe an old lover returns for your lover or spouse, and you do not get to have "the talk."
And what do you do if something so tragic as death strikes without warning? What if you are married to the lady of your dreams, and she suddenly dies and you couldn't even say goodbye? It is a great marriage and your soulmate is taken from you in a heartbeat. You can't give it a week. You can't just take off. You are heartbroken. What do you do?
What worse can you think of than before you can get to the honeymoon beach of your dreams, on the day after the wedding, your bride is killed? That is what happened in the story of the new book, At Least We Were Married.
The pain killed a part of the groom's own soul. He himself nearly died. Hard as it was, he found a way to handle the pain, live with it, and overcome it. He did not bury it, because he found out that you can't just bury the pain of losing your wonderful soulmate. It is there and remains there, forever.
It is a story that can give ideas and help to many people in a similar situation, whether they lose a soulmate, a child, a parent or even a pet.
A year later he found himself, late at night, with an idea of an outline for giving people his story in a book. The first,short chapter was before him and he put it to paper. Nine months later the book was presented to a publisher and it became a best seller, with over 500,000 copies in print. It was a book that struck the hearts of thousands and gave them steps to deal with losing a soulmate.
After six years it was time to stop printing. That was like 25 or 30 years ago. The problem is there has been a growing need for the book again. It has become in demand at used bookstores. The price has kept escalating. A new series "Story Books for Healing" has asked to feature the book in a series of stories.
So now the book is being republished online with a fresh introduction and photographs never seen in the public before.
What do you do when your soulmate didn't work out? We can't tell you personally. You are unique. But a story like this can be more helpful than reading a guidebook.
