subject: The Secret Ingredient To How To Save A Marriage [print this page] Can conflict actually save a marriage? If your marriage is in trouble at the moment and you don't express yourselves well to each other then this could be at the root cause of your problems.
While we are not endorsing conflict as a cure for getting some harmony and happiness back into your union, the fact is, if you're not communicating with each other at any level then how do you know what the issues are.
We're talking about bring things out in the open. If your partner has done something to upset you don't go to bed at night brooding about it. The same applies to him or her. The worse thing you could do is give one another the silent treatment which never resolves anything.
Communication on all levels is considered healthy for couples looking for a long term marriage. How are your communication levels? Here are some tips to help you get some talking happening between the two of you.
- Spend enough time together. Couples who rarely spend time together are not allowing themselves enough time for creating proper communication channels. In other words, not enough is being spent together to discuss any differences that occur. One way to get around this is to have a date night or two every week.
- Don't ignore each other when in conversation. In other words, when your partner is speaking really listen to them and appreciate what they are saying. They may actually be telling you just what you need to know.
- Always ask. If your partner is silent then something is on their mind. Naturally you'll think you've done something wrong but you won't know until you ask. On many occasions, it's totally unrelated to you but don't you think it's unfair that you cop the brunt of the silent treatment. So always ask.
- Another key aspect to saving marriage is to get inside each others worlds. In other words, take an interest in what your partner is doing or interested in and see if you can get involved. This is ideal in creating those precious moments together.
- Don't be judgmental. Too many times couples are quick to judge each other or criticize one another ahead of others. This can be terribly hurtful and unless an unconditional apology is forthcoming, can leave the type of marital destruction residue which can quickly build up in a short period of time.
- Another strong save marriage tip is to be honest with one another about wants and needs. People who avoid conflict generally cannot be honest about what they want or need. Express your honest opinion.
