subject: 5 Ways On How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back In Your Life
[print this page] Going down the counter intuitive route could be the big secret you're after if you're wondering how to get your ex girlfriend back. What do we mean by counter intuitive?
It's simple. Many people spurned in a relationship will automatically have instincts of desperation and panic. These can last for a long time and in the majority of cases, the scenario would be constant rejection in attempting to get back into their former girlfriend's life.
Apart from the fact that when a break up occurs it's almost final in many cases, someone going down the instinctive path is only bridging the gap between themselves and their ex further. And many don't realize that it can all be boiled down to the fact that the methods their instincts are telling them to do just don't work.
So what can you do? Let's look at doing the opposite to what you would normally do. These tips can put you on the right path.
- One of the first instincts you need to fight against is the instinct to yell and scream at your ex at every opportunity. Sure you are hurt and want them to know how you feel but seriously, pout yourself in their shoes...would you want to take you back behaving like that?
- To get your ex girlfriend back, act in a happy frame of mind. When you see her be upbeat and be civil with her. This is confusing behavior and will get her thinking. It's not what she expected and the respect meter for you will rise. This is what you want.
- Return her things. There is an inclination for many people to want to hang onto things because it could be a vindictive move or by hanging onto them it gives them something to hang onto of the ex and they may pop around or call to come and pick it up.
- Don't force the issue with your ex girlfriend if you want to get them back. Don't demand that you get back together or let them know how it's going to be. This won't work and will push her further away. Letting things re-develop naturally is best. Even being scarce will get the curiosity juices going.
- Give them the space they need. If they dumped you there was a reason and one of them was they didn't want you in their life right at this time for whatever reason. So give them enough time to miss you. This is key.
