subject: Dating Tips for Divorced Guys- Get Back in the Swing of Dating Again [print this page] Dating Tips for Divorced Guys- Get Back in the Swing of Dating Again
When Gary married Karen, he never thought that he would ever have to worry about getting back into the dating field again. They had met when they were in college and fell in love rather quickly. She was beautiful, he thought, and she had a pretty square head on her shoulders. When they graduated college and went into the work force, it seemed like nothing could go wrong.
They both had good jobs, with brights careers ahead of them. They talked and talked about having kids one day and Gary figured he had gotten lucky and was living the dream life. Six years into the marriage and things had changed just a little. Karen was spending more and more time with new friends she had made through work and Gary was working long hours at the office, so that one day he would be able to move up and make the good money so he could provide for a family.
Then one day it happened. Karen came home and the look on her face said it all. She was unhappy and there was nothing that Gary could do to help. Over the past six years, they had grown apart. She no longer wanted to raise a family with Gary, she was having too much fun going out with her work friends. Little did Gary know, but she had strayed from him more than once.
When the dust settled and the divorce was finalized, Gary realized that he not only had lost his dream and his wife, but he had to start all over again. Here he was, 30 years old, divorced and living in a one bedroom apartment. Just a few years ago, he was happily married and living in a 3 bedroom starter home.
Dating after divorce was not something that he looked forward to. He had always kind of hated the dating scene. Sure, he liked hooking up with a woman when it happened, but it always felt very uncomfortable to him just trying to get out there and meet women he did not know.
He needed help. He needed to regain his confidence and find a way to feel comfortable dating again. After all, he did not really have a choice. Either he would get back out in the dating field again, or he would end up one of those guys who lives by himself in a small apartment and goes to work and comes home alone. He did not want to be that guy, not if he could help it.
If you are like Gary, and you are back out there after getting divorced, it can be tough to know what you should do just to get started. You may have your doubts, but you know that you do not want to just give up.
Here are some dating tips for divorced guys that should be of some help to you:
1) Before you force yourself to get back out there and meet women, you have to be secure with your life.
As long as a guy like Gary feels ashamed of the way that his life has turned out, it's going to be tough to appear confident around women. And you know that you need to be confident to attract women, right? Just because things have not turned out the way that you want them to... it does not mean that you are not worthy of attracting a quality woman. Sure, you may be in a bachelor apartment for now, but you probably will not be there forever. You have to become comfortable with who you are and where you are and then you will be confident around women.
2) There are many more options available than just going to singles bars.
One of the things that Gary dreads the most about dating again, is that he does not want to be seen cruising around singles bars. That's just not his scene. If you feel the same way, then you should know that there are many more options available now than just hitting the typical single bar scene. From dating online, using Facebook to meet women, and speed dating, the options for meeting women are practically limitless. You don't have to go to bars and deal with that scene if it's not what you prefer.
3) When you know what a woman is thinking, it makes it EASY on YOU.
One of the reasons why guys like Gary has such a hard time with dating, or even the thought of dating, is that he never feels like he knows what a woman is really thinking. That's understandable, as he probably feels like he totally misjudged his ex wife. You can be REALLY CONFIDENT when you know what a woman is thinking, and it is not as difficult as you think it is to get clued in on what women are thinking.
