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Aren't break ups the worst? Life as you've known it has gotten turned inside out, and chances are you have no idea how to get back on your feet. While breaking up might be the toughest thing you've ever faced, there are some things you can do to assist in the transition back into at least a semblance of "normal" life.
You -- are a survivor. You won't stay trapped in the past, since you'll be shifting yourself forward, starting right now. For the initial few weeks, it might be best if you do not go to the places the two of you preferred, and do not attempt to hang out with mutual friends. You may pick up these former relationships later, but for now, focus on things you know make you feel good that don't have a connection to him/her. Also, steer clear of individuals who will just wish to gossip about your ex, or feed you rumors about them.
Obviously, avoid any form of contact with your ex. No communicating at all, no text messaging, no checking their fb page, blogs, twitter accounts, emails, telephone calls, with your ex or with anybody near them (siblings, best friends, co-workers, etc.). Put aside any reminders of them. Images, postcards, birthday cards, notes, etc., favorite romantic songs, or music you each appreciated and listened to together.
Don't watch films that will make you feel worse, such as overly romantic films that can only serve to remind you of what you have lost, or films that may make you reminisce about former times or ask yourself, "what if?" Generally speaking, try to stay away from depressing entertainment and as an alternative go for upbeat, constructive, cheerful options.
Have you ever heard individuals say, "Laughter is the best medicine?" Well now that you are feeling damaged, you need some laughter in your day to put your life back on the mend. Look for motion pictures or television shows that'll make you laugh. Go out with a true, good friend who has an excellent sense of humor and can tell you humorous stories to get your mind off the break up. Laugh a lot, and laugh often, at even the silliest little things!
If in case you have trouble coming up with one thing to concentrate on, take some time to think about the sorts of things you loved before you started your relationship. Did you have a hobby you have kind of let go? Was there one thing you were passionate about before you and he or she met? Really give it some thought, and then start to do those things.
Is there something in your house that is begging for attention? Was there a task that you had delayed doing or had been procrastinating about? The more involved you become in doing things that make you feel good, the better you will feel.
The end result is, focus on making yourself feel better and get back your self-esteem, and then some. Begin a self-improvement class, learn a new craft, resurrect your old video games, join a gym, go on a buying spree, or try your hand at cooking or baking new foods. Just remember to place your attention to doing things that make you feel good about yourself, and you'll beat these break-up blues very quickly!
