subject: Raise Your Self-esteem With Compliments [print this page] I love receiving compliments! It makes me feel like a friendly, competent, loving person.
Strangely enough, not all people enjoy receiving compliments. Are you one of those people who get embarrassed and immediately respond with something like oh no, thats not true at all!. You may think to yourself that the other person is just saying that in order to be kind to you without actually meaning it.
How often do you say positive things about others without meaning it? Ok, you may tell some white lies some times when your mother-in-law asks you about how she looks in her new dress, but apart from that you probably mean what you say in most cases. In general you can trust that if somebody tells you something positive about yourself, they actually mean it. If there is no obvious reason for lying, such as you just having asked them about whether they like your new shoes, you can assume that what the other person says is true. The more spontaneous and specific the comment is the more likely it is that the person actually thinks that you are great in the way they say you are.
Next time you receive a compliment, try to simply smile and say Thank you!. If you want to take one step further, try saying Thank you, you make me very happy by saying that!. The great thing about replying in this way is that it not only makes you accept the compliment as true, but it is also a disguised compliment-in-return. When you tell the other person that he/she made you happy, he/she will feel like a good person who has just achieved something great too. Then you can feel good about making the other person feel good, so now you have two things to feel good about: the specific comment that you got and the fact that you just made another person feel good.
Compliments are great! The more you spend, the more keeps coming back to you! Most people have a severe compliment-deficit. Try to spread more compliments around you! Your warm words may mean the world to someone who has not received any compliments for weeks (or months or years). Planting compliments around you is one of the best things you can do to save the world! It will also make you feel like a good person and it will therefore raise your self-esteem. Great, isnt it?! Youll raise the self-esteem of yourself and others at the same time!
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