subject: Man Woman Dynamics: 3 Secret Facts You Should Have Known Earlier! [print this page] Man Woman Dynamics: 3 Secret Facts You Should Have Known Earlier!
Are you disappointed that your better half, girlfriend, beau or a co-worker of the opposite gender JUST do not understand you?. Does that Leave you feeling frigid, furious, low-spirited and altogether discontented with your opposite sex relationships?
Let's see two common complaints women and men have about each other.
1. The most often stated complaint WOMEN have about men: Women think, men do not listen them! Either he entirely brushes her aside when she talks to him, or he hears for a few impatient moments. Even on the rare occasions when he is listens to her he quickly assesses what is troubling her, and then with pride blurts solution after solution to make her feel better. And that's NOT what she wants!
He is all at sea when she does not appreciate this gesture of his love. In spite of how many times she tells him that he's not listening her, he does not get the hint on and blabbers on giving solutions!. What she really needs is empathy and not solutions! Wrong means for the men to take on with woman.
2.The most often stated complaint MEN have about women: Men think, women are always trying to change them! The truth is, when a woman loves a man, she thinks it's her responsibility to facilitate him in his growth and endeavors help him better the way he carries out things.
In spite of how much he is determined to break this, she persists; awaiting for any opportunity to help him or advice him what to do. She considers she is nurturing him. While, he believes that he is being controlled and seeks her acceptance.
Difficult situation for both. Right? What's the solution?
Here are three little known 'man woman secrets' that can surely brighten up things for both of you ...
1. Men and Women gets motivated in totally different ways: Men feels motivated and empowered once they feel are needed. While, women are motivated and empowered when they feel treasured.
Many men are not only eager to give love but are longing for it. But they don't know what they're missing. Few men men have little awareness of how crucial it is to a woman to feel supported by somebody who cares. What she requires most is simple companionship. She has to feel loved and treasured. Men don't recognize this need of a woman usually.
Many woman feels that she has been giving too much and she is not getting anything back. Then she tends to blame her mate for their unhappiness. Here she fails to recognize her boundaries of what she may give without resenting her mate. A man does not like to feel that he isn't good enough or that he's incompetent -- at least to his mate! That's why it's so difficult for him to listen sometimes when a woman discusses issues. He wishes to be her hero and blurts out solutions! Many women just don't recognize how vulnerable men are and how much they need love too! Just as women are afraid of getting, men are afraid of giving too.
2. Men and women normally are unaware that they have different emotional needs: Both men and women believe they only give but do not get back. They feel their love goes unappreciated and unsung. Nothing is further than the truth!
For instance, a woman considers she's being very loving when she asks a lot of caring questions or expresses concern. But this may be actually be irritating to a man. He may feel controlled. He may feel women are forever attempting to change them and may desire more space.
On the similar count, men consider themselves very caring and loving, but the way they express their love may cause a woman to feel unappreciated, unwanted and unsupported.
For instance, when a woman gets disturbed, he believes he's loving and defending her by airing remarks that play down the importance of her issues. He may say "Don't fret, it's not much of a big deal". Or he may completely dismiss her, assuming he's easing up her with a lot of "space" to cool off. The truth is, what he assumes is support appears to her as belittled, unloved, and brushed off.
3. The toughest challenges in Man Woman relationships is dealing with conflicts and arguments: Many times when mates differ, their discussions could develop into ugly arguments and can quickly turn into pitched battles. These arguments automatically lead to paining one another: finding faults, complaining, accusing each other, demanding, envying, and distrustful.
It's a lot more easier to stay detached and level-headed while debating or arguing in general with casual acquaintances. But among emotionally attached couples who argue, especially when sexually involved; the issues tend get too personal.
A lot of couples out there fight quite frequently and gradually their love wanes. On the other extreme point, some couples bottle up their real feelings just to prevent conflict and do not argue at all. The result is same. In both the extremes, they begin lose the soft emotional touch with their loved ones.
It is best advised for a couple to strike out a balance between these two extreme ways. Recall that men and women are a bit different emotionally. Acquire good communication skills. You both will never need to argue again!
No matter how much your wording is correct, the feel behind your words takes the Centre stage. If your mate do not feel your love, understanding and approval, the stress would continue to get worse - no matter even if you use the exact right phrases.
Even if you forget everything else from this short article, just remember that men and women are different. So, the next time you are disappointed with the opposite sex, commit to memory that men and women feel and take things differently.
Hope, these three insights will help you express your love in far better and rewarding ways. By slowly eliminating your prejudices, judgments and blame, you may nurture loving relationships that you cherish and care. You get to keep relationships that you require and deserve.
You have a lot more to look forward to. May you continue to develop in love.
