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Getting the all-important second date
Ever had that feeling, that things could not be better. You're halfway through your first date, its going well, the conversation is flowing and you're having the occasional laugh. Ask yourself, do I want a second date. Have you clicked with the other person; if you have then the answer is a very probable yes.
Here are a few ways to assist you into sealing that second date:
Tips for men.
During the first date show genuine interest in her. You should be asking questions (that get you more than a yes or a no answer) and more than she asks you. Actively listening to what she says, mirroring her body language, having unbroken eye contact and respond with follow up questions.
Don't be nervous, everyone is on a first date, be yourself, just like you are with your friends. It's best to be confident, however, not over confident as this can come across as being arrogant.
Focus on the positives; keep it light hearted, stay away from discussions that involve religion, politics or controversial subjects. Keep her interests at heart and talk about her.
Paying her compliments, remember maximum amount of compliments in the evening should be no more than three. Any more than this can cause a negative effect and scare her away.
Honesty is the best policy. If you have enjoyed her company and the date has gone well, then it's always better to say so before you part company, finish the date on a good feeling and don't leave her wondering.
Tips for women
Be yourself, relax, smile and enjoy the date.
Show interest but stay away from in-depth questioning. Men take longer to express themselves than women, so keep it light hearted and jovial.
Again, be honest. If you've had a good time tell him so. If you haven't don't tell him you have.
Tips to both men and women.
Mobile phones. You should be giving your full attention to your date not your phone; it is rude and annoying so switch it off.
It is natural to feel nervous and slightly uncomfortable on your first date, however, it's not a good idea to take someone with you for moral support.
If you don't make it to the second date, don't worry, you can always visit a great online dating site www.btogether.co.uk to meet your next first date and give it another go.
