subject: Am I Ready for Marriage? [print this page] Am I Ready for Marriage? Am I Ready for Marriage?
AM I READY FOR MARRIAGE?
Marriage is not a game. God intended for husbands and wives to forge a permanent bond, closer than that with any other human. A marriage mate is thus someone you will stick to or be stuck to for the rest of your life.
Any marriage is sure to suffer some "pain and grief". If there is one unchallenged bit of information we have concerning whether or not marriage will last, it is that of those who are very young on their minds when they marry have three strikes against them.
Why do so many young marriages fail? The answer to this may have a strong bearing on determining whether you are ready for marriage or not.
Great Expectations
A poor idea of what marriage is, is a reason out of some, why marriages fail. Many nurture such immature views of marriage. They imagine it to be a romantic fantasy. Or they head for the altar because they want the status of appearing grown up. Yet others simply want to escape a bad situation at home, at school or in their community.
But marriage is neither a fantasy nor a cure - for all problems. If anything, it presents a whole new set of problems to deal with. Some get married to play house.
Many also have unrealistic expectations regarding sexual relations. When the fun is all over, you'll find out that the great thrill of sex wears off very soon and you will start having some real problems. Doubtless, this is because satisfying marital relations result from unselfishness and self control qualities that so many failed to cultivate. Marrying when passion is at high tide can distort your thinking and blind you to a prospective mate's flaws.
Unready for their roles
There are many roles to be played in marriage. Not being ready for your roles could go a very long way in destroying your marriage. The only language that marriage respects is maturity; maturity to play your role and play it well.
Money Problems
This brings us to another marital discord for so many couples: money. Money problem is common in marriage. It creates red tension. How can I run the home without money? How can I provide for my family? How can I pay the bills? How can I ?
The question is endless. Material things shouldn't be the priority of marriage but it is necessary to keep the home going.
Making a Self-Examination
At what extent are you prepared to take on the role of husband or wife? Are you capable of managing a household or making a living? Can you cope with marital conflict?
Marriage can be a source of rich happiness or a most bitter pain. Much depends upon how ready you are for it. Waiting will not harm you. it will simply give you time you need to be truly ready if and when you take that serious and permanent step of marriage.
