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As you are probably aware, a lack of communication is one of the biggest killers of marriages. There are two vitally important elements to building a loving and healthy marriage, communication and spending quality time together. Without communication your relationship cannot function. Without spending quality time together, or to put it another way, having fun, your marriage can easily go stale. The lesson of the day is, have fun, revitalize your marriage.
Physical attraction first drew you together but it was having fun that kept you together. Can you remember all those dates, vacations, long walks, talking for hours? All of these helped you to learn about your spouse, and what you learnt showed you that here was someone whom you could spend the rest of your life with.
Are you wondering why all the passion has left your marriage? Can you remember when you last felt any passion in your marriage? Was it while you were still having fun?
When the fun goes the spark starts to go. When the spark has gone, what have you got to make your relationship interesting? Have fun and revitalize your marriage.
We live I a serious world, in serious times, and marriage is a serious commitment. You cannot spend your whole life fixated by all the heavy serious issues that everyone has to face, it will suck all the joy out of your soul. If all you see is problems then eventually life becomes one big problem and happiness does not get a look in.
If you have problems then talk them through with your spouse, after all they are there to help and support you. Do not however live your life from one problem to the next, apart from being an unhealthy way to live, it makes you come across as very boring.
The world is a busy place and it is far to easy to lose track of life. Doing something like spending some quality time with your spouse often slips to the bottom of your list of priorities.
Many people think that once they have got married then that is it, job done, and they will live happily ever after. Married couples that live happily ever after are couples who work at their marriage. Getting married is not the end of building your relationship, it is the start. Is it such a scary commitment to have fun and revitalize your marriage.
I have to admit that I wish that there was a better way to describe working at your marriage. Given that you are doing your best to make your loved one happy, which in turn makes you happy, how can you call that work?
One of the best ways of nurturing or nourishing your marriage is to have fun. If you having fun together then you are enjoying being together. You might be together for decades so does it not make sense to be happy together? You might agree with me, but will you make the time to have fun?
There are work commitments, looking after children, you might be having problems where fun is the last thing on your mind. Or it might be that you just do not know what to do together. If you have both lost touch with each other, you can find yourself the situation where you are each trying to get the other to take the initiative, neither of you does and an opportunity is lost. Be wild, have fun, revitalize your marriage.
If your problems are so bad that fun is the last thing on you mind, when you are beset with negativity, then I can appreciate that the word fun is not one that you want to hear. Why not try for just going for a walk with your spouse, you do not have to say anything, just go for a walk together. It not be fun in the classical sense, but it will strengthen you, and it is a pleasant way to spend some time. You never know until you try.
Just because I am saying, have fun and revitalize your marriage, that does not mean that you have to spend a fortune on extravagant vacations and gestures. The simple things such as a walk or going out for a coffee can be more effective, because they are from the heart.
Try a bit of spontaneity and surprise your spouse. Do things that you both enjoy, and find new things that you can do, together. You could try sharing each others activities. It really does not matter what you do, and how grand or how simple it is, the important thing is that you are doing it together. You never know, you might even enjoy yourselves. So why not have some fun and revitalize your marriage.
If you are struggling for things to do then have a brainstorming session. Check your local paper and see if there are any local community events. If you have never done something before, or visited somewhere before, then give it a go. It does not have to cost a lot of money to have fun with your spouse, it just needs the two of you to go of and do something.
Why not have fun and revitalize your marriage. Given that you could be together for decades, does it not make good sense to get into the habit of enjoying each others company, and building up a store of fun, shared experiences and memories. Even if it means that you are just going for a walk you will be keeping your marriage interesting, alive, healthy and fun.
