First, assess the situation. Take a hard and honest look at yourself and the relationship. Do your best to figure out went wrong and learn from it. There are many reasons why a relationship ends and pointing fingers is never helpful. Ask yourself different questions from different perspectives. Scrutinizing each aspect of the breakup is important because it can help determine if the relationship is salvageable. If the relationship is not fixable, it's time to let go. But, if there is still hope for reconciliation, then seize that hope and go with it.
Fixing a relationship simply won't happen overnight. There is no magic potion or spell, no way to hypnotize, no secret move nothing. You will be required to work hard and show that you are willing to put in the hours to show your commitment. It won't be easy, but with these tips, it'll become more possible.
Firstly, do not:
Break your promises.
Allow your pride to dictate your actions.
Disregard how your partner may be feeling.
Continue to do things your spouse would disapprove of.
Get angry.
Lie. Trust is the one way you'll make this work.
Realistically, one of the reasons that you and your ex broke up was because there was a lack of romance. You had passed the stage of nauseous excitement and metal butterflies in your stomach. Relight that spark.
Communication is key to restructuring what has happened. Everything must be constructive, open and caring. Do not let emotions interfere with the talking process.
Compromise and accept imperfections. These little imperfections are usually what make the relationship as interesting as it was. There are both good and bad imperfections, but believe me, you wouldn't want someone who is completely perfect.
Relationship counseling may also be an option. It is highly beneficial to have a professional assess the relationship and to clear everything into the open. This almost acts as a "reset" button, allowing things to start fresh without grudges being bore and stones left unturned.
In everyday life, we often take things for granted. This may be true to both you and your partner. Make sure you appreciate every day together and set aside regular times for just you two. Downtime with one another can work wonders for your relationship.
Enjoy yourself! Relationships aren't supposed to be difficult or stressful. They are supposed to make you feel whole, youthful, energetic and besotted. Think about the stuff you used to do with your partner when first dating. Can you build on that?
I hope you've enjoyed some of my "Rescue Relationship" tips, if you need further advice, feel free to browse the site and click on some of my links. I wish you and your soon to be future partner all the best.
