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I am aware that just because you are reading this article, it does not mean that you are a victim of cheating. Possibly, you are reading this out of curiosity. This article is aimed at every man and woman in a relationship who would like the relationship to be strong and long lasting.
When a person is caught in an act of infidelity, he or she will try to justify it. Even if they were to apologize and mend themselves later, the initial response will be to defend their actions. It is only natural that a person caught in any embarrassing act defends himself or herself, whether the act is cheating, stealing, lying or some other shameful act. But you should know that there can be some truth behind these excuses. And at least in some cases, the act of infidelity will have underlying causes. Hence understanding some of the causes of infidelity and guarding against their occurrence will go a long way in strengthening your relationship. I am sure that you will understand that I am not justifying infidelity but only underscoring the need to take care to not give scope for the emergence of these factors.
Unfulfilled needs can be a major cause for infidelity. While human beings have many needs and individuals may differ in their needs, we will focus on a couple of needs which are very important for a marital relationship to thrive but which are surprisingly neglected by one of the partners without even realizing their doing it.
1) Need for recognition: People have a fundamental need for recognition, acceptance and appreciation. In many relationships, one partner is just being taken for granted by the other. The stronger partner often feels that the other partner will just oblige them and accept whatever they say or do. Though such an attitude prevails with men more often, there are also strong women taking their husbands for granted. This naturally hurts the pride of the other. When they find another person recognizing their personality, they will easily fall for that person.
2) Sexual needs: Sometimes, a couple may have misunderstanding between them. During this period, they avoid sexual relationships. This may hurt one partner more than it does the other. Sexual needs have to be fulfilled irrespective of any strains in the relationship. You won't skip your lunch or dinner just because you have quarreled with your partner. The same principle applies for sexual needs. A partner not getting their sexual needs fulfilled can easily fall a prey to extra marital relationships. In this case, infidelity may start with a sexual contact while in other cases, sexual contact may take place only after a while.
I can list several other needs like the need for communication but I would like to point out that the above two are probably more important than the other needs. If you realize the importance of these two needs and take care of them, your relationship will remain strong even if it faces some problems now and then.
