subject: Get Him Back - Do You Feel Like A Drunken Monkey Is Behind The Wheel? [print this page] Get Him Back - Do You Feel Like A Drunken Monkey Is Behind The Wheel?
Are you trying to get your ex back but things are spinning out of control and it feels like a wild ride with a drunken monkey behind the wheel? Do you feel like you're constantly on the defense and your words are being twisted every time you talk to your ex? Are the things that come out of his mouth not even close to the truth and you feel like you're not even talking to the same man that you fell in love with?
All of these are very normal things to experience just after a breakup and there are things that you can do to help to even things out and get him back. Right now emotions are swirling and the things that are going through your ex's head and thus coming out of his mouth are tainted with anger and frustration. At the moment it might be a good idea just to step back for a short bit to allow things to cool off and come back with some better ways to talk to him and thus take control of the conversation and the relationship in general.
Time As A Weapon - You might not think that time is your friend or you might worry that if you stop trying to fix things that your ex will leave you in the dust. But a little time apart can give both of you some space to think about things and allow those emotions that are at a boiling point to cool down a bit. Right now, every time you talk to him you are falling into the same trap or rut, aren't you. You want to get back together and he wants to break up. You are wanting to be near him and he is pushing you away.
Think of your ex like a little boy. Have you ever seen a stubborn little boy that is in a foul mood that says "no" to absolutely everyting? You have seen them at the supermarket throwing a fit because they want a certain cereal or toy. The mother tells him to get up. He says no. She tells him stop being bad, He says no. She tells him to stop being so disrespectful and he says no. She asks him if he wants ice cream he says no. Your ex is being like that little boy right now. He wants his way and that is all he wants. He is pushing his mother away emotionally and that is what your ex is doing to you. But given a little time and by using some clever psychology a good mother can get that little boy to fall into line and you can get your ex to come around too.
Psychological Tricks - Do you want your ex to start saying yes to you and to become more compliant? I know that this sounds simplistic but once you get someone to begin agreeing with you on a few simple things that really don't matter or that you are willing to conceed on, psychologically it becomes easier for him to begin to agree with you on other things. You become like minded. You are no longer the enemy. By disarming him of the need to argue and then replacing that with the ability to agree on things you lead to being viewed as his friend again which natuarlly opens the door to getting him back.
For instance, if you can agree with him that you were a bit controling in your relationship and backing that up by saying that you understand now how he feels after spending some time thinking about it you can disengage his need to argue with you about that. If you can follow it up by saying that it must have been frustrating for him to want to make you happy yet still wanting to be a guy and see his friends for a beer after work, for instance. You agree with him and expound on that with understanding and caring. A simple conversation such as this that uses just this one psychological priniciple can really turn things around.
Using psychology to your advantage and understanding the workings of the human mind can give you a significant edge when it comes to getting your ex back. Doing the same thing that you're doing right now is insane and will only drive him further away from you than he already is, So, if you're serious about getting him back and you want to end the craziness try these psychological tricks and watch the change in your ex. It is within your grasp to take control of your relationship and get him back without being deceptive or lying.
