subject: Benefits of Being Assertive [print this page] Benefits of Being Assertive Benefits of Being Assertive
This article will list the benefits that you will notice as you become more aware of your assertiveness pattern and preferred style.
If you want to be more confident, positive and cooperative in your approach to others, and if you wish to improve your ability to influence, then assertiveness is a must.
Your career and the performance of those around you little benefit from learning the skills to express your faults, feelings and beliefs without violating the rights of others.
Improving your work place confidence will help you to understand the impact and assertive style can have on defusing problem situations.
Assertive behaviour will help you talk about your needs and ideas, and the outcome you would prefer, without arousing defensiveness in the person or group addressed.
That is, there is a win-win solution for all parties.
Some people have a natural tendency to exhibit assertive tendencies as a part of their negotiatory style and their everyday communication style, while others need to develop these characteristics.
Others, of course, change style according to circumstances, and there is a place for this, also.
So, what are the in the immediate benefits of assertiveness training?
o It makes you more effective
o It increases your confidence and self-esteem
YOU
o enjoy more balanced lifestyle
o manage colleagues and friends effectively and empathetically
o increased work effectiveness and productivity
o feel more in control of your daily activities
o reduce stress
o develop assertive body language
o develop assertive language
o develop an assertive vocal image
o develop the skills to give feedback, critique and praise
o learn to recognize your own self-talk, and challenge and change internal dialogue
o develop proactive rather than really reactive behaviours to manage aggressive and passive behaviours in others
o understand and assert your rights
To make any form of change in your behaviour, it is at first necessary for you to identify your predominant behavioural style, under most circumstances, that is the challenging circumstances as well as those you feel comfortable in.
You also need to be able to recognize assertive, aggressive and passive behaviours in yourself and others, so that you can champion individual rights and responsibilities.
There are times when your assertiveness will give another person courage to assert themselves in the face of a more aggressive person.
Even if you do not always feel so confident when confronted, remember, the saying: "Fake it till you make it."
All our behaviours start first as decisions in our mind before they become outward manifestations.
When you are assertive you able to say 'no' with confidence and not feel guilty, and give the other person an alternative for when a particular job, for example, can be discussed.
Each day take one of the above points and make a deliberate effort to gain greater confidence in asserting yourself.
Gloria M Hamilten is a recognized authority in disciplines within Personal Development and People Skills for Business Professionals, such as Time Management, Negotiation Skills, Developing High-Performance Teams, Assertion Skills, Building International Rapport, Conflict Management and Resolution, Presentation and Platform Skills.
Her studies in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Psychology have lead to her researching brain disorders such as ADD and its relations.
She has her own training business, and conducts courses for Organizations, Sporting groups and Tertiary Educational Institutions in Australia.
Her professional experience covers over 30 years of study, research, one-on-one coaching, group coaching, presentations and workshops. Her clientele includes children as well as adults.
Gloria Hamilten has authored the eBook: "Practical Self-Hypnosis for Success" and many Reports and online articles.
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