subject: Your Spouse Had An Affair! How Did It Happen? [print this page] Your Spouse Had An Affair! How Did It Happen?
Your spouse has had an affair. How did it happen? Why did it happen? Here are some possible reasons and answers that may be of some help.
Both you and your spouse have needs in your relationship, everyone does. You are both individuals, and may have totally different needs within your marriage.
We are all different, and some of us feel a need to cheat, whether it is cheating at the job, cheating in a game, in marriage, or any where else in life where there is an opportunity for cheating.
Most people that cheat have their reasons for doing it, and it is possible that it may not be a reason that has anything to do with a weak area in your marriage or relationship. It is possible that it is simply a part of their nature, and it is a natural thing for them to do.
Here are some possible reasons why a person cheats in their marriage:
They feel they are not getting what they need within the relationship
Regardless of the rules or morals of marriage, or any other rules in life they will always step over the boundaries and have no remorse in doing this(breaking the rules)
It is a thrill to them to do something that is forbidden, it is too much of a temptation to let it go
They have an affair to reinforce their feeling of masculinity
They have little self respect and having someone show them some extra attention gives them a greater feeling of self confidence and respect
They may have a sexual desire that you are unwilling to fulfill for them, and they will not discuss it with you
They feel neglected by you and feel the need to look elsewhere for the attention they are lacking
Whatever the reason or excuse, they made the choice to go beyond their marriage to get the comfort or attention they felt that they needed.
No reason or excuse is going to make it right, it never will.
You don't really need to know what happened, or why your spouse made the choice to cheat on you. The important fact here will be that both you and your spouse agree that you want to pull together and rebuild your relationship and marriage.
Rebuilding your marriage and healing all of the different areas of you relationship will take a lot of work for both of you, but the outcome can be the best thing that you could ever imagine.
