subject: Art of loving [print this page] Art of loving Art of loving
Loving is an art. We love people around us, those who are part of our world. It is quite normal to hear these words in the world. "I Love you"; "I cannot stay without you"; "I can't think of parting from you"; "lost in your thoughts" etc. Love flows between other relationships also i.e. between parents and children; brothers and sisters and between friends also. But be it any relationship, we feel the emotional state of love till our needs and desires get fulfilled. Why these feelings of love die with time. Isn't it need for someone, or habit of someone. Till the time that temptation is there; you love him/her. But what afterwards, I need you! I want you! And when the desire to stay with that person is over, you say good bye.
We love to love and to be loved. We tend to find love around us because seeking for love is our nature. When love is there we feel happy. But this so called state of "falling in love" is a kind of intoxication done by nature. We just fulfil our desires. If this is not love, then what is real love? Can we learn to love? Is it so easy or so difficult to be in love? Love is a highly misunderstood concept. Actually love is our own existence, our basic nature. The joy of feeling love is an art and this is so called art of loving. A true feeling of love comes with complete faith and devotion. When we learn this art of loving, nothing can shake us from the permanent nature of happiness around us.
When the colours of our imaginatory love gets over, we feel fear, insecurity, anger, jealousy, hatred etc. These are the distortion of love. When a child is crossing the road with his finger in his mother's hand; he has no fear of accident because he has deep love or faith or a sense of security in his mind for his mother. The fear of separation; the insecurity to lose the person we love enters into our mind.
Another form of distortion is anger. We tend to get angry with our love ones because of our expectations from them. When love is not deeply rooted, it will always expect or demand and when these expectations are not fulfilled we tend to feel angry. We are filled with sorrows and pain because of unfilled expectations. The one we don't love; we cannot get angry with him. Isn't it? So anger is a form of distorted love, which is felt because of conditional love which is based on Give & Take philosophy.
Love has no name, it's unconditional. Let it be like as it is. To love and to be loved completely requires learning the wonderful art of loving which can be learnt from The GOD only. Look at the purity of love of God. He is always here for us. He has no expectations. He fulfils our needs. Language of love is innocent, unconditional and beyond all relationships. This is between us and lord, only we and our lord can understand. We cannot explain these feelings to anyone."
